if you lived together before marriage... stolen from 12-24

jessNdean · November 2009

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Did marriage change things? Can a piece of paper change a relationship? Thoughts?

dh and i have more off days now, then we did before getting married.

BitterOldHag · November 2009

We are more of a team now and our goals are more solid and planned out.

Mrs.Rose · November 2009

I things are basically the same.

ETA: I once heard it described as it being like when someone asks you if you feel older on a birthday. Really, I felt the same as before, just with more diamonds Smile

newbaby on the way · November 2009

i dont think it does we lived togethr for a year and then got married.. we got to know each other better before committing to each other..

kaylenpar1 · November 2009

We're pretty much the same. We've had more off days now that DD is here, but that's to be expected, I think.

mjlx207 · November 2009

BitterOldHag:
We are more of a team now and our goals are more solid and planned out.

I agree with this. Before it was still a lot of "his and hers" and now it's "ours". Having Mady changed a lot too.

megontoast · November 2009

I can't wait to see the responses. DH and I didn't live together before marriage and we had everyone telling us we should/that we would regret it/what if he leaves his socks on the floor? LOL

we're doing fine.

ncbelle · November 2009

To be honest, marriage didn't really change our relationship much - but we were already committed when we moved in together.

jamie4duke · November 2009

I dislike my MIL more now than I did before we were married. lmao.

No, it really didn't change much, but I also feel like it's more "forever" than just "for now." Does that make sense?

smellycat15 · November 2009

Basically the same. We have different priorities and goals now that we have DD and are married but everything else is the same.

CaitlinJ22 · November 2009

for us marriage made our relationship stronger. We lived together for about 2 yrs and loved it. After we got married it felt like we were more of a family--or the beginnings of one. being able to call my DH my husband was awesome, and knowing that commitment we had before was even more solid now that we were married, was wonderful.

When we moved in together, we made a commitment that we were together and would treat each other as future spouses. I dont like when people say marriage is just a piece of paper, bc to us it was a stronger commitment to each other and made in front of our family and friends, we promised ourselves to each other forever and that says a lot.

I also know that as the years go by and we have more time together and more life experiences, our relationship has grown and we are more of a team now than ever before.

adamwife · November 2009

The piece of paper didn't change a thing. The commitment we made in front of God and our family members changed everything.

2bejunebride06 · November 2009

Marriage didn't change much for us. The strangest thing for us was the fact that we couldn't just leave anymore - it wasn't like we could just move out and just decide to break up (not that we wanted to) - it made it more final for us. Things are pretty much the same as before we were married...plus DD, of course!

CMDR513 · November 2009

jessNdean:

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Did marriage change things? Can a piece of paper change a relationship? Thoughts?

dh and i have more off days now, then we did before getting married.

At times we're the same as you. Last week DH said "you were different before we got married."

ETA- We made settlement in the fall and married the following spring.

MikesFavoriteWife · November 2009

jessNdean:

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Did marriage change things? Can a piece of paper change a relationship? Thoughts? Honestly, I don't think so. I remember waking up the day after my wedding thinking I would feel different and I didn't. I wasn't bummed though, I was as thrilled to be with him as I always was. Now it was just official I think.

mommy411 · November 2009

nothing changed

yo.mama · November 2009

Getting married made me feel more at peace and secure with the relationship. Nothing changed between the way DH and I interacted with each other.

jessNdean · November 2009

CMDR513:
jessNdean:

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Did marriage change things? Can a piece of paper change a relationship? Thoughts?

dh and i have more off days now, then we did before getting married.

At times we're the same as you. Last week DH said "you were different before we got married."

ETA- We made settlement in the fall and married the following spring.

Oh I hate that saying!

jessNdean · November 2009

I have to say we do have more off days since DD was born.

LynnJones · November 2009

ncbelle:
To be honest, marriage didn't really change our relationship much - but we were already committed when we moved in together.

Me too. I think the level of committment that marriage takes should be there for a year before the actual ceremony. We have the same committment, trust, honesty, etc now as we did before we even got married.

LizzieandGar · November 2009

No difference from when we just lived together to married.

Definite change from when we were just married to married and a baby.

Rangergal9 · November 2009

Nothing really changed. Although we feel more together since we joined bank accounts and we see everything as "ours" instead of his and hers.

deeanneharris · November 2009

DH and I lived together for 8 years before we got married, so things pretty much stayed the same. Actually, I pregnant about a month after we got married, but I would say we are doing better now than ever before.

YouAreMyILoveYou · November 2009

We were married when Isabella was 18 months old, so no, I don't feel like a wedding changed ANYTHING for us. We were living together, raising a child and were just as commited to eachother the day before our wedding as we were the day after.

I don't need to stand up in front of anyone - God included- to prove that I am commited to my partner.

Truthfully, I could have gone my whole life without ever being married. I really just sealed the deal to shut our parents up, lol.

Fish4Fun · November 2009

Before we got married, we hadn't started our full-time jobs yet. I timed the start of my work date for a month after the wedding. Being engaged with no responsibilities or worries meant A LOT of canoodling. The rate dropped drastically after marriage because we logistically couldn't spend all day in bed any more.

Ah well. "They" warned us that it would happen!

pixiedustie · November 2009

I didn't think anything would change, but getting married really did seal our commitment to each other and we are happier now.

Hopeful2008 · November 2009

Not a whole lot different for us. We lived together for a couple years before getting married. We got to know each other very well obviously...I think getting married and making it offical made us feel closer together and more of a team though...