telling SIL who had a m/c

Re: telling SIL who had a m/c

• KeepingFaith member

  November 2009

  Im sure she will be happy! Its nice that you told her though!! And like you said hopefully they have some exciting news for you;-)

  "Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see." Hebrews 11:1

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• LuvBug53 member

  November 2009

  I've also been thinking about how i will tell my SIL if we find out we're having a boy. She wanted a boy sooo bad and ended up delivering her son still born (he had trisomy 13). She is praying the next one is a boy and i will feel a little guilty if we get a boy. I know she will be happy for us too, i just hope it doens't bring up sad memories for her.

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• Rory419 member

  November 2009

  I definitely think telling her is wise as it would be really hard to find something like that out.  You would not want her to think you are avoiding sharing information.  I was actually in the same position; two days after I found out I was pregnant, my SIL had a molar pregnancy at 11 weeks.  Thankfully we told had told them the day before, but I just wanted to give you the heads up that while she will be happy for you, she may have a hard time with it too if she is not able to get pregnant right away.  My SIL is so happy for me and so supportive, but we still try extra hard to be sensitive to everything she is going through.  I am sure you have already thought of it; it can just be a tricky situation emotionally for all people.  

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• ladyluxe

  November 2009

  You should definitely tell her and be excited about it. Don't act like you're walking on eggshells around her BUT after you tell them, let her drive the conversation. Yes, she will probably be very happy for you. But it's also REALLY hard to have people around you get KU when you are trying after a m/c. So let her ask the questions, and if she seems like she doesn't really want to talk about it, don't force it. And don't think that that means that she's not excited for you guys. She just might need some time to process it. But that's my experience -- she might be a stronger person than me!

  

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• CaitlinJ22 member

  November 2009

  thanks for the advice!
  

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• gringa78

  November 2009

  Don't tell her in person or on the phone - email her so she has time to process it alone before reacting to you.
  

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