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My theory about this being the best (nicest) board
I think our unifying hardships of preemie-hood brings us together, makes us more patient, makes us a better community.
The reason I say this is because I posted for the first time yesterday, and had a very positive experience on, the Adoption board, and really, they're a lot like us.
On the tri boards, there are people there who have NO idea what the bad stuff is... how hard it can be, how strong they really are, and they resort to bitchiness... it's easy for people (and I say this generally, no one specifically!) to sit on a very high horse about things, when they've never seen the other side.
We've been on the other side; we've hit rock bottom, and sometimes lower, and lived to tell about it, and I think it makes us better people, better moms, better friends.
I'm feeling a little sappy this morning, if you can't tell! Thanks for bearing with me!
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Re: My theory about this being the best (nicest) board
I think you are right!
About a month ago I posted a question on the 'Baby Showers' board. My Aunt was looking for nice wording to suggest bringing a children's book for the baby's book shelf. I went to that board with that question and was verbally attacked by some girl. She called me a "greedy ***" for telling people what they could/could not bring as a gift to a shower. I was shocked. This is the only board I've ever been a frequent poster on and although I had heard the horror stories, I didn't really believe how crazy people could be until I was attacked myself! YIKES!
I've noticed it on here and IRL too. I have a SIL (DH's brother's wife) who totally thinks she's the expert on parenting because she has one 1 year-old child and kept giving me unsolicited and very rudely-communicated "advice" the entire time I was pregnant.
On the other hand DH's cousin who had preemie twins has been absolutely supportive. And not only do I appreciate the cousin's support, but in a bitchy way of my own I'm thankful because SIL is irritated that I'm close with that cousin now and she isn't.
I think that pretty frequently. I also frequent the parenting after a loss board (now off-bump but started here) and it's the same kind of thing.
As a PP said, we know what's important and what's not.
Not that we don't occasionally go all momma-bear on someone with something nasty to say, but by & large, I think we've all had enough drama to last us the rest of our lives. We don't really need to invent any extra.
Back in the NICU the nurses always said "never say the Q word or the B word." (quiet or boring)
And I would tell them I could use about 5 years worth of boring.
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