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Horrible vent on stepkids..
I'm expecting to get flamed for this one, but I gotta let off my steam somewhere. I just don't care anymore. My mom married a wonderful man, my stepdad, and he has two sons. One of them everybody adores, and one is a devil child.
He is 12, 230lbs, completely disgusting and rude. He doesn't cover his mouth when he coughs/sneezes. He doesn't wash his hands after using the bathroom. I even went to pee one time and found poo in the toilet from him with NO toilet paper. Gag! This is all just disgusting stuff, but here is where the problem comes in...
He is SO DISRESPECTFUL!!!!!
He treats my mom horribly, his brother awful and he has no respect for me or his father. If you ask him to do something, or tell him its time for bed, or tell him his time on the computer game is up, he will act out on it. Today alone, he decided to destroy a candle holder that I love and have had for 8 years that I have on display for the Holidays in our living room, just for the fun of it. He goes through my Mom's drawers and takes all of her nighties and throws them in our kitchen garbage can! Then, if dinner isn't something he asked for or if it was made by my Mom or I, he refuses to eat, then convinces his father to get him Chipotle.
He is such a smart alec. He talks to adults like they're 5 years old, and he doesn't even listen to his punishment. He was sent to his room last night, and he would either stomp around or blast his TV or start knocking on the walls or singing loudly and obnoxiously.
He also makes rude comments about me being pregnant out of wedlock, and he thinks drugs, drinking, smoking and sex are cool and funny. This kid is freaking 12.
Sorry to vent here, and sorry if I sound like an awful person. My question is,,, what can my Mom, Stepdad and I do to punish him? Anything we do isn't good enough! He doesn't listen to any of his punishments and we can't take it any longer! This kid is so awful he even openly talks about masturbation at the dinner table.
Thank you in advance, I appreciate it.
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Re: Horrible vent on stepkids..
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
I'm not punishing him, its not my right. I was asking to try and help my Mom/Stepdad out. They are at their witts end with him. We do ignore his bad behavior, but he never stops. Also, they took him for counseling for months. It did nothing.
I was mentioning his weight because he is disgusting. He will only eat fast food and sugar. He eats to excess. He will even say ''hey watch i can eat 3x as much as dad tonight''... i wasn't commenting on his weight issue to be rude! sorry for not making that clear.
Do you project all of this negativity onto him? I'm sorry, but you really seem to have nothing but negative things to say about him and I'm honestly not surprised if he acts poorly towards you given how you feel about him.
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
Honestly, at this point, its impossible to even try to be nice to him. He storms around with an attitude 24/7, and insults everybody in the family left and right. We've tried praising him on his good days, which are few and far in between, but it never helps. I don't even speak to him, so he doesn't know how much I dislike him.
You don't speak to him and you think he is disgusting because he's fat?
How sad for this child. The best thing that might happen to him is that you move out...
::Picks jaw off of floor::
I actually agree with mom2one.
You are such an AW, Amanda. It doesn't surprise me in the least that he would do this stuff. You don't have any authority over him, and you really just need to get over it. Good grief.?
I haven't read any other responses, so if I am repeating, sorry.
My question is, why "What can Mom, SD, and I do to punish him?"
Sorry hunn, you aren't responsible for him. Its not your place to "punish" him no matter how terrible he may or may not be. Period. If my sister tried to discipline me, I would have come on twice as hard, twice as fast.
If your Mom and SD aren't doing enough in your opinion, its not your place to mention it, try to remedy it, or try to step in. As two "live-in children" (and you ARE a child in this situation - nothing to do with maturity, but if you live with your parents, you are the child - they are the "adults"...at least it was still this way when I lived at home at 22) then you are technically equals on the playing field. He views you as a sister, not as an authority figure. And I believe he is correct in feeling that way. My sister is 6 years younger than me, but I never "punished" her... other than the obviously annoying "sisterly" ways.
Good luck.
Oh, J+R, you would think right? She's not mature enough to live on her own... check out some of her drama on 3rd tri (or just about any other board) and you'll better understand. ?
Ugh, she never leaves. No matter how many people tell her to.
That's gotta be one miserable household, then. I wonder why her parents don't man up and kick her out?
Shorty, so this is the infamous Diane I keep reading about? LOL... Oh jeez. I felt bad because I didnt want to be snarky - but seriously, you get knocked up as a teenager... have no job... allow your parents to buy everything for the baby (because without a job, how are you possibly buying anything?)... and will probably be raised with NO discipline (hence what she writes about her own family) I feel bad for the baby...
I'll check out 3rd tri
That's what I was thinking.
One thing you said kinda hit a nerve with me ...
"One of them everybody adores, and one is a devil child."
He's only 12 years old. I'd guess that he acts out because he knows that nobody likes him. Everyone loves his brother and nobody seems to care about him. Of course it sounds like it's difficult to be around him when he acts out like that - but he's still a child. He's reacting to the environment he is in and the life he's had so far.
I would try to be a big sister to him - try to show him some love and affection and see if that helps. Hating him will just perpetuate the negativity it seems like he's already internalizing.
Yes. But I am almost 100% positive that it was in the context of a post about applying for public assitance using not so true information.
OP. You are 19, not that much older than your SB, and quite honestly while it sounds like he is a major PITA, he is making some valid points. You should not be living in your parents basement, KU, with no support system.
It is not your place to decide punishments for this kid, and if you don't like his behavior move out. If your mother does not like his behavior either, maybe the two of you should move out, especially if her husband allows his son to be that horrible and disrespectful to her.
This is one of the many reasons that babies should not have babies.
She has definitely posted this before. I think it was under DianeN9 though. Her AE, FreckleRed, posted on here about her "XH" that she divorced in less than 6 months and wondered if she could not put him on the BC. ?
Yup, she's posted under all her multiple personalities here. She's been all over the boards trying to sucker people into her drama.
Just reading thru your post quickly I am wondering why this disrespectful kid has a tv in his room. That woulda been GONE at the first sign of bad behavior!
One more time...you need to move out of your parent's house. It's that simple.