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Feeling SO guilty....SIL's FB status

MeepitMeepit
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"well we put the crib and changing table up in the attic...at least I won't have to look at an empty crib anymore."

They've had all of this in their bedroom since they were approved for foster care more than a year ago, and while they have a wonderful teenage foster-son, it's been really hard on her that she doesn't have a baby to care for. 

:(  I know our announcement is going to hurt her, and I just wish she could be as happy as we are.  This just makes me want to cry and cry. 

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  • duke'sgirlduke'sgirl
    That breaks my heart. Hopefully she'll be able to share your joy, but we all know that it can take time. ((hugs))
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  • alison43alison43

    oh no.  that is so sad.

    does she know you were trying and having difficulty?  somehow maybe that will make it hurt less for her?

    i'm sorry.

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  • lnlelnle

    oh, that is so hard!!! Just be as sensitive as you can, and let her know it's ok to be sad for herself...

    I have a cousin who was pregnant with triplets a few years ago and lost all 3 of them. I'm not very close with her, but still felt terribly guilty about making my announcement.

    ((hugs))

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  • qtpa2tqtpa2t member
    That is really heartbreaking.  If she knows you've struggled, it might still hurt but maybe sting a little less.
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  • Waiting4baby08Waiting4baby08
    That is sad. =(  I'm sorry for her situation, but you deserve to be this happy!  The fact that you know it will hurt her a little means you will act with sensitivity.  I wish life were more fair for everyone.
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  • MayDayGirlMayDayGirl member
    Oh no :( Why don't they have a foster care child?
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  • TheSkimmyTheSkimmy member
    I hope they get to foster a baby soon. That is tough. I'm sure she will be happy for you though. 
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  • kme930kme930 member
    How difficult! I'm so sorry for her and hope they find a way to be parents soon!
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  • kittylovekittylove member

    imageqtpa2t:
    That is really heartbreaking.  If she knows you've struggled, it might still hurt but maybe sting a little less.

    ditto this.

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  • amc_bananaamc_banana
    I am so sorry to hear about your SIL, like pp said maybe the sting will be less if she knows you struggled. Good Luck.
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