S/o My DH drama/ possible solution

mmk3742 · November 2009

So for the last few weeks my dh has been just doing nothing around the house. I have posted numerous times seeking advice. Well after all the good suggestions I got on here and actually talking to a mutual guy friend of dh's and mine I came up with a plan of action.

I have completely stopped nagging him to help during the week. The guy friend (who is in the same job as dh) said he doesn't want to do anything when he gets off work because he is physically tired/ sore. On Friday I handed him a list of 6 things I wanted him to get done this weekend.

Well so far he has cleaned at least half the office (all I asked him to do was get all the trash out), folded the sheets I asked him to fold, closed the pool completely, and some random other things I didn't ask him to do. Only two things remain on the list to do.

This isn't to say he gets to do nothing during the week. He still has to help cook (or he can starve as I eat cereal) and take out the trash, etc.

Maybe this is the start of something good. Or maybe I will be back on here venting in a week. We shall see!

sw_in_kc · November 2009

Sounds like a good plan. I hope it works for you!

I, on the other hand, still can't get my DH to do anything.

lo45fd98wq32 · November 2009

I am glad that he at least started helping.

mmk3742 · November 2009

I am so happy that he is at least helping even in miniscule amounts that I will take anything. Those four things he got done are four less things I have to do this week.

I am hoping if I get him doing a few small things that the small things can lead to bigger things. And/or that eventually we can tame some of the clutter and just make it easier to keep up with the house.