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Feeling Down Today (whining included)

asiamina08asiamina08
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I don't know why today is so hard for me today. Last night my DH and I were coming home from a double date and he mentioned that I should not see getting pregnant as a race. I know it is not a race, but I can just not see my goal right now. I had high hopes with my last cycle, but that did not turn out. I was just wondering how you guys keep yourselves motivated? Sorry for the whining, but I just needed to get this off my chest. Smile
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  • roxyttandmeroxyttandme member

    I haven't "hidden" anyone on facebooks. So, my motivation is when my pg friends post their damn pg bellies... I hate those b!itches... 

    :::Keepin' eye on the sky, eye on the sky:::

    Hang in there girl...

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  • heathergirl67heathergirl67 member
    I haven't kept myself motivated.  I've given up a million times.  I'm more sure every day that I'll never get pregnant again.  But about 9dpo, without fail, I start to hope.  I'm not trying to, not thinking about it, but my stupid brain makes me hope.  And even if I'm sure I'm not gonna get pg, I just can't waste a O, so I always end up BDing.  Even as I'm sure it won't work.
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  • BELOVEDCARMELBELOVEDCARMEL
    I dont think you're whining, It's just that you have your heart set on somthing that is hard to reach. My DH is the same way and it makes me upset because sometimes I feel like I want it more than he does. I hope you feel better. Go and eat some ice cream, that always makes me feel betterSmile.
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  • PeetiePiePeetiePie
    Don't apologize and that was hardly whining.  My mom and DH both have said "it's not a race."  While it's true, it doesn't help anything.  Technically, I'm still TTA, but I can say I never really had an issue with keeping motivated.  What sucked was the time inbetween cycles.  During that time I tried to find something fun to do to preoccupy my time.  Try a new recipe, work on a knitting project, etc.
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  • schen0510schen0510
    I constantly feel like I am in a race.  There are so many pg women at work and others that are trying that it drives me completely nuts.  I also think that it will never happen (on our own) and that waiting until May to go back to IVF is wasting my time.  DH is just not ready and thinks that we can do this without IVF...HELLO...he has moderate OATS...his boys just don't look good.  But just like you said...when it comes down to it...I won't skip a cycle because you never know.  Seeing all of these other pg women is what is keeping me motivated...kind of...it is not fair!
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  • KelzinBostonKelzinBoston

    I feel like I'm in a race, but not with anyone.  I have been so intent on having my children close in age (for many reasons both practical and not so practical)...and I feel like every month I'm moving further and further away from that.

    I know it's silly, and it's silly to worry about what others are doing...but I understand completely it's one thing to say it's silly, and another thing to be able to ignore it.

    I'm sorry you're having a sad day.

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  • asiamina08asiamina08
    Thanks everyone for your thoughts. It makes me feel better that others have been told the samething. I am going to focus on redecorating my guest room since my parents are coming for christmas. We moved into an old farmhouse with 70's flowers on the walls. That should keep me occupied until it is time to BD around my O time. I think that the time inbetween AF and O is the worst!!!!
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