Still in hospital & feeling like a jerk...

lulugirl · November 2009

Per earlier post I am in here for contractions and on magnesium. No one knows when I will go home.

I know this is best for the twins - I need to keep them cooking as long as possible and cannot imagine them coming out now...I am not dilated at all and contractions have stopped so it is just a matter of seeing if I have to stay here or go home on strict bedrest.

What do I keep thinking about? How my shower, that has been planned for 6 months, is tomorrow and how many people are coming in from out of town for it. How I will disappoint my friend who has worked so hard. How there can only be 4 visitors at a time here at the hospital so I cannot move the shower here (we have 18 at the shower).

I feel like a selfish jerk. Why the hell do I care about the shower when I am in here taking care of my babies??

Ugh -

Temp159135562506975 · November 2009

there's nothing wrong with thinking about your shower!!!

I missed my shower when pg with Griffin, b/c i was in the hospital with kidney stones. I knew I had to be where i was- but i was still so upset I missed it- and i still have some saddness about it. Thankfully my friends threw me a "sprinkle" for the twins so i did get to experience some sort of shower... but i'm still sad i missed my big one- with all the friends/family. They still had it- but just DH went and opened gifts.

i will say a prayer that you can leave today and go to your shower- but if you do go - make sure you sit and do not move... i'd even have someone else open the gifts for you (right in front of you- but you don't do any of the opening). A frined of mine on bed rest did this for her shower- and it worked out fine.

If you can't go- know that it's totally normal to be sad about it. I hope that's not the case, though!!!

robinsokj · November 2009

I'm sorry youre going through this, but you just reaffirmed my thought that I need to have an early shower.

Temp159135562506975 · November 2009

robinsokj:
I'm sorry youre going through this, but you just reaffirmed my thought that I need to have an early shower.

seriously.... my shower was at 34w when i was pg with my singleton- and i missed it. When they planned the sprinkle it was for 28w and i was so nervous- i wanted it to be earlier but they couldn't do any other date. Fortunately it worked out but i was SO scared i was going to miss a 2nd shower.

lnle · November 2009

I would be sad too. I've waited so long for a shower that I'd hate to miss out on it. Hoping it all works out for you.

BeccaLandes · November 2009

I am sure that all your friends and family will understand. Of course, after all this anticipation, it does stink to miss your shower! Maybe if you have to be in the hospital someone could set up a webcam or something and you could watch all the goings on and still talk to people? But hopefully you get the ok to leave and can be there yourself.

cholzer · November 2009

The baby shower is the best part of being pregnant, well, ok, one of the best parts. I would be soooooooo sad if I missed mine. I love all of my friends getting together and the games and the snacks and I love all of the gifts. You go right ahead and be sad and don't think a thing about it!