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What I know and what goes through my mind..

angw79angw79
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
are two different things. I'm pretty sure there isn't anything I could have done, but I still wonder if something I did or didn't do caused my m/c. Maybe I shouldn't have gone to the gym this week, did having sex do something, oh and a bunch of other things go through my mind that somehow maybe it's my fault.
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Re: What I know and what goes through my mind..

  • Scout05Scout05 member

    The cruelest cut of this whole thing. You did NOTHING to cause this. None of us did. But we will all carry this doubt around with us forever.

    I know you know this, but I cannot say it enough. It is NOT your fault, you did NOTHING to cause or deserve this.

    I am really, really sorry.

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  • priya&peterpriya&peter member
    imageambrandau2:

    The cruelest cut of this whole thing. You did NOTHING to cause this. None of us did. But we will all carry this doubt around with us forever.

    I know you know this, but I cannot say it enough. It is NOT your fault, you did NOTHING to cause or deserve this.

    I am really, really sorry.

    this.  we all think that way but it really truly isn't your fault.  working out, having sex, none of that will cause a m/c.  hugs.

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  • tradster2007tradster2007 member
    Every.Single.Day.  That's how often this goes through my mind too. As many times as people tell you there is NOTHING you did to cause it, we can't help ourselves.  I'm so sorry for your loss and for how it makes you feel.  {{HUGS}}
    BFP#1 8/14/09; Natural M/C 9/16/09 @ 9 weeks 2 days 
    BFP#2 5/11/10; DS1 Born 1-27-11 
    BFP#3 6/24/12; Natural M/C 7/1/12 @ 5 weeks 
    BFP#4 9/22/12; Natural M/C 10/17/12 @ 7 weeks
    BFP#5 3/3/13; DS2 Born 11-7-13
    BFP#6 9/20/14; Due 5-28-15


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  • jennsadye1979jennsadye1979

    I am so sorry this has happened to you.

    There is nothing you did wrong. I would be lying to you if I said I haven't been going over in my head every night all the little things I could have done wrong, and how next time I am doing eveything different. As much as the rational part of you knows it was not your fault and nothing you did wrong, the emotional side can't help but be, well, emotional. I hope you start feeling better soon. ((hugs))

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  • HeatherPB1020HeatherPB1020 member
    imageambrandau2:

    The cruelest cut of this whole thing. You did NOTHING to cause this. None of us did. But we will all carry this doubt around with us forever.

    I know you know this, but I cannot say it enough. It is NOT your fault, you did NOTHING to cause or deserve this.

    I am really, really sorry.

    Ditto... I know this feeling.... It crosses my mind everyday.   I am so sorry for your loss.

    ~Married- 10.20.2007~ TTC Since- 4.3.2009 ~BFP#1- 8.25.2009 ~ Missed M/C and D&C-10.9.2009 ~BFP#2-8.12.2010 ~ EDD- 4.20.2011~ It
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  • KarlsSweetie05KarlsSweetie05 member

    * raising hand * me too

     I can't help it.  This 2nd m/c is worse than the first and is making my fears  and second guessing even worse than before. 

     

    TTC #1 for over 5 years - too many to count IF treatments (tried everything and anything), repeat miscarriages. Finally, Sticky Success!! B/G Twins arrived 2011. VOTE on my Name List Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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