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first night out with friends since bfp, need help
I haven't even told family yet, but the minute I turn down a drink they will all know.
Ideas? thought about getting a glass and not having any, or saying I'll have one after I have water and just never get one. Other ideas?
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Re: first night out with friends since bfp, need help
BFP 6/28/12 EDD 03/07/13 MC 4w5d 07/03/12
BFP 07/30/12 EDD 04/09/13
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I thought about the sick excuse since I do have a cold currently. I need water to fight the cold right? I also thought about using my DH to drink my wine (did you see desparate housewives?) I think that could actually work!
None of my friends would have ever believed that I was "on medication" or "DD". Even when I was DD before pg I would still sip on a beer through out the night. Dh and I just both ordered beers and he would drink some of mine through out the night and then trade off and I'd carry around his (almost) empty. No one seemed to notice but I had to avoid the shots too!
As long as you have something in your hand, you'd be surprised how little people pay attention!
My friends knew we were TTC and having trouble so I just told them our new Dr. told me not to drink at all.
You could also say you are trying to lose some weight, have a hangover from last night, have to get up super early tomorrow, am on antibotics for a UTI, make up some other ailment that you don't want to drink because of, tell them you are sick of drinking and have decided to take a break for 30 days.
ditto PP.
say you're the DD or on anitbiotics.
BFP #2 1/22/2012 ~ DS2 & DD ~ BIRTHday 9/13/2012 ~ unplanned C-section @ 38w1d
Get to the restaurant first (go very early if you need to) and tip off your waiter then. Order whatever you want to drink (anything with a lime in it looks like a cocktail), and ask the waiter to keep yours virgin for the rest of the night.
Just order a beer and carry it around with you, act like you're taking drinks from it, dump some out each time you go the bathroom! Noone will even notice!
At a work party, when someone offered me a glass of wine I said "Oh, no thank you. I just took some Tylenol for a headache and I shouldn?t mix."
Another time at a family dinner I said that I wasn?t feeling too hot because I had drinking the night before and said that I?ll I should do is drink some water.
I think it's really lame to lie, but do what you have to do.
Order a drink from the server at the table just like you normally would, then excuse yourself soon after and before your drinks arrive. Find him or her and ask them to bring you a virgin, but keep the drink on the tab. I did this at a one-on-one dinner with my boss. The server and bartender went along, and he was none the wise.
I don't think it's a big deal to keep it quiet until the family has been told. Even if you have to lie about it to friends for a few weeks. I did when I went to a college reunion, no biggie. I'm pretty sure my parents appreciated being the first to know rather then hearing it through the grapevine.