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I feel like I sound insensitive to addiction
I am an ex smoker, and I know how hard it is to quit and at times how hard it is to resist.
But at the same time, THIS is the easiest time you'll ever have caring for your LO. It's all on you and all in your control. If you can't do your best for them now, when they are inside you, what are you going to do when they come out?
Yes, there are much worse things a person could do besides smoke. But there are also MUCH better things.
There are so many women that would die 10 times over to be pregnant, or have a child, or even a healthy pregnancy.
I can not imagine how infuriating it must be to see someone given that gift and take it for granted. It's 9 months that you have to sacrifice for. 9 fvcking months.
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Re: I feel like I sound insensitive to addiction
Every time I want to complain I think this. I am so lucky and blessed to have such a perfect LO. I can't even imagine being someone who had just miscarried or had a stillbirth and then seeing some pregnant woman smoking.
Life is defintiely not just about "you" anymore... everything for the LO.
These people:
Might as well GTFO the Bump now!!
This. I cant understand why people cant be patient for this amount of time, that frankly goes by rather quickly, IMO. In exchange for a chance at a baby born in good health.
3 Amens & a Hail Mary to that, sista!
I so agree with you, but I'm not going jump on someone for a momentary lapse in judgement. Our sweet babies are wonderful gifts, and I hope that I am not taking mine for granted, but addiction is stronger in some people than it is in others.
I would rather support them in their recovery and remind them that tomorrow is always brand new, than give them a good strong tonguelashing for slipping up... at least that has been my attitude with DH while he attempts to quit smoking during this pregnancy (he's on attempt #3... hoping it sticks this time!).
Both of my parents smoke. DH's parents smoke even more...like chimneys. I love them, but I find their habit absolutely disgusting. The thing about smoking is that it doesn't just affect the smoker; it bothers EVERYone around that person.
I have to agree with this 100%. before I got pregnant I smoked nearly two packs a day. when I found out I was having a baby I gave myself one week and put the pack down. I have not had a single drag since a week after we found out! and I smoked for a few years prior to this.
Its all about your mind set! If I could quit for my child so can the other people, the ones who dont just flat out dont give enough of a sh!t in my opinion!
false.
The thing is that she had 2. That's not a lapse in judgement at all. That's poor decision making and selfish.
I totally agree. I smoked atleast a pack a day for 14 years. I have struggled with cravings but I have not touched a cigarette while being pregnant because of my LO.
I smoked for 15 years starting when I was 13 years old. I quit even though it was hard because my baby's health was more important to me than calming my craving, which I did have a lot. My husband smokes as well, outside never allowed in the house even before kids, and has tried many times to quit, especially when I was pregnant with my 2 yr old. He has said though that if it was him who was able to have a baby he would have quit a long time ago for the baby's sake. I wish he would, but he does know that just like with the first, he cannot hold the NB after he's smoked. That was our rule and we're sticking to it.
No one is claiming to be perfect. The problem is she tried to defend herself by saying eating fruits & vegtables & drinking water is just as harmful as smoking a cigarette.
My fiance and I were talking about this just today - before all these posts started! He works security at a casino, and works overnight. Casinos are the only place that smoking is still allowed in-doors here.. He said there was a woman who smoked every single night, all night long, and would be there from the time he got there (11) until 5 or 6 am - and she was 9 months pregnant! He said she didn't come for about 5 or 6 days, and then she was back, no longer pregnant, still coming every single night - and of course still smoking! My first thought was, "if i was someone actively trying to conceive and unable to, or had last babies in the past, i would want to walk right up to that woman and slap her!" - so disgusting!
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Exactly, I think my OB would rather have me eating fruits and veggies than smoking.
Incredibly, profoundly true. I should be here with you ladies, getting ready to welcome my baby on the 15th of this month. My little November Ninja. Instead, I'm mourning my third loss this year. I would give up anything asked of me if it meant I could hold a healthy baby.
Well I am glad this isn't a support group or anything. I would have already been lynched by the mob. I had 2 cigs this entire pregnancy and it was yesterday. You want to know the real reason behind it? I was a nervous wreck. I said in a pp that I was just craving one. There was a man in my backyard. The only reason I happened to see him is because I had to run out to the car and retrieve my cell phone. It was after midnight and there was some freak lurking. I hate admitting to being a scardy cat. I was terrified. I called the police. I had like 5 cop cars scoping out my back yard all the trees walking up and down the tracks. DH works nights an hour away and I was petrified. I opened a pack of his cis thinking they would help calm my nerves since I couldn't seem to fall asleep or quit jumping at every fvcking sound I heard.
There you have it. I am a pvssy for being scared and breaking down and having a cig. The only reason I even said anything here on the Bump was due to the fact that I felt so damn guilty about doing it.
Call protective services for christ sakes.
I still stand behind what I have said though. I did not kill my lo by smoking. There are many dangers that we encounter daily etc.