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Anyone else avoiding Thanksgiving
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Thanksgiving used to be my favorite holiday but things have changed this year. We have the choice of
A. Staying local and spending the holiday with my family where there will be a room full of babies and no one who knows about our IF
B. Flying to NYC, spending the holiday with monster (I mean mother) in law, her boyfriend and his daughter. She is having a baby shower for this woman, the one who registered for a $1200 stroller and $900 bumpers.
C. Spending time alone.
We decided on option C and are going away by ourselves and not have to deal with any family at this time.
TTC since 3-08
IVF # 1 Dec 2011 BFP
DD born at 31 weeks 6-24-12
FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN
FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN
No more frosties
IVF #2. September 2014
PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts
SET November 9, 2014
Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN
Not sure where to go from here.
FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN
FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN
No more frosties
IVF #2. September 2014
PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts
SET November 9, 2014
Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN
Not sure where to go from here.
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Re: Anyone else avoiding Thanksgiving
FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN
FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN
No more frosties
IVF #2. September 2014
PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts
SET November 9, 2014
Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN
Not sure where to go from here.
SAIFW
6/10 C/P
6/10 Failed independent adoption
12/10 C/P
4/11 Failed independent adoption BM had a m/c
5/11 Femara and TI= BFN
6/11 Femara and TI= BFN
7/11 Break cycle
8/11 Break cycle
Thanksgiving gives me anxiety. Its only one day (whereas x-mas has x-mas eve and day) to split between two families. Both our families are local.
I don't know what we are going to do, but I like your option C. I really want to do that!
We are doing A, but only my sister has kids and no babies so I am good.
If I were you I wouldn't be able to do C fast enough! I hope you are going somewhere fabulous!!
Me - DX Hashimoto's Disease, Hypothyroid, Rheumatoid Arthritis
DH - DX Azoospermia - Sertoli Cell Syndrome
DS-IUI #1-4 BFN IVF #1 - BFP! It's a boy!!!
I wish. We get off pretty easy most of the time, as we're 1200 miles away from any family members, but this year we're driving out east to DH's sister's. And we're only going now b/c we haven't seen our niece since she was 3 months old.
I'm scared about it, honestly, and am jealous that you get to stay home. DH and BIL are good friends and will probably want to spend a lot of time palling around, but my relationship w/ SIL has been strained for awhile, since her nonstop pregnancy complaints were making me really upset. I foresee a lot of awkward silences.
Option C sounds way better..Where are you going
DH and I had planned to go home to MA for the holiday to see our families and go to my 10 yr High School reunion. That changed when we started IVF#3 so now it looks like we will be spending that week hear in FLA..
I haven't told my mother yet and don't know how she'll react. I could always tell a little lie and say we're spending the holiday with DH's family (mother lives in NYC and father lives in Arizona.) We're planning to use FIL's condo in Breckenridge, Colorado and leaving Thanksgiving morning. It's between seasons but maybe we'll ge to do some cross country skiing, the indoor pool in the building and just enjoy the gorgeous mountain scenery.
Isn't it awful that with cell phones my family won't know where I am, so I can say we went to Arizona to visit DH's father and his family.
FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN
FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN
No more frosties
IVF #2. September 2014
PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts
SET November 9, 2014
Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN
Not sure where to go from here.
Sounds nice to just spend the holiday alone together.
And LCB- I think you have the best Tgiving plans!
Me- I'm hosting Tgiving. Thankfully nobody really asks us about TTC. My mom & aunt know about our IF. So does my MIL. But only my mom knows we've tried two IUIs.
There are only two young kids in the family. But my DH aunt is 7 mos pg w/ her 2nd- so I'll try to ignore her belly and not be jealous.
I'm looking forward to having family over though. Of course, last get together, DH aunt's toddler was being a spoiled brat & I made a comment- and we got the oh just wait until you have kids- I'm sure yours will be bratty too. I just bit my tongue. So if that happens again, I'm just going to have to leave the room. I'm thinking if you only knew.
DH and I are in the same situation. Both of my sister in laws are pg and they all know about our IF, so they constantly watch my reaction and tip toe around me. It's awful. DH wants to spend time with this family and says "it's not their fault thier pg, we should be happy for them." UGH Boys!
Dreading the Holidays.
I am semi avoiding it this year. My SIL is due at the beginning of the week and I don't think I can handle being around her and all her kids. She just has said such stupid stuff this pregnancy like "I'd love to eat another taco but this baby is just taking up so much room I can't fit anything else in there." All sorts of insensitive things, and she knows about our IF issues.
I am opting to have my family up - which doesn't avoid the pregnancy issue because she'll be about 13 weeks then and plans on telling my brothers. But I'm happy for her and at least she's still sad, sensitive and supportive for me.