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Opinion about a gift for nephews

nemtownnemtown
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There are 4 'kids' in DH's family. Three of them/us have kids and the fourth does not but wants them soon. This Christmas I thought about getting the three little boys the same book and writing a little note in there, but I don't want the fourth sibling to feel left out, and when they do have a baby, all three of the current kids would have the same book but the fourth (future) baby would not.

Should I get 4 books and save one, buy a 4th book and give it to the parents with a note for the future baby in there or skip it and get something else?

I should mention that this 4th sibling's wife (my SIL) was pregnant last summer and had a miscarriage. I don't want to upset her, but I want to give the three existing kids something to link them together. I don't want to alter the way I would treat my nephews just to make sure not to hurt her feelings, but I do want to avoid hurting her if possible.

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Re: Opinion about a gift for nephews

  • yo.mamayo.mama member
    Buy 4 books, save one, don't mention it. People can feel jinxy over this kind of stuff.
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  • LynnJonesLynnJones

    I'd maybe save that idea for when the 4th person does have a baby.  Or else get the 3 same books and give them this year then do something else like that when the 4th has their child.  I don't think you should avoid getting the 3 the same gift to spare the 4th's feelings, but def do it again when the 4th's child comes along since it's a cute idea.

    Hope I read that correctly!

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  • nemtownnemtown
    imageLynnJones:

    I'd maybe save that idea for when the 4th person does have a baby.  Or else get the 3 same books and give them this year then do something else like that when the 4th has their child.  I don't think you should avoid getting the 3 the same gift to spare the 4th's feelings, but def do it again when the 4th's child comes along since it's a cute idea.

    Hope I read that correctly!

    I think you did. I want to do it for their first Xmases but I also don't want baby #4 to wonder why they don't have the same book the other 3 have.

    Maybe I can make it my theme every year. I can do the same book for all 3 this year then all 4 next year (if they have one) and all of them after that.

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  • mjlx207mjlx207

    imageyo.mama:
    Buy 4 books, save one, don't mention it. People can feel jinxy over this kind of stuff.

    Yes 

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