Looking for advice: Should I schedule D&C?
Hello,
I'm new here and touched by all the support that this board gives. I'm looking for some advice. This is my first pregnancy so I'm pretty upset.
I just had my tv u/s and the baby measured 8 weeks, but the tech was unable to see a heart beat. The 8-weeks is pretty consistent with my hcg levels when I last had blood work done at 5 weeks (so the doctor is pretty confident that I'm 8 weeks along). I asked if I should wait another week and come back for a follow-up u/s, but she said no. She gave me the option of waiting to m/c naturally or schedule the D&C early next week.
So, what advice would you give? Is there any hope to wait and find a heart beat later? Is there any chance that a heart beat would be tricky to see at 8 weeks? Should I just let nature take its course? I think emotionally I'll be able to handle it, but I don't want to sit here holding out hope for this pregnancy if that's not realistic. My dr recommended scheduling the D&C, but I told her I'd think about it and call the office back.
Thanks for your help...
Re: Looking for advice: Should I schedule D&C?
I am very sorry. Take some time to think over what you may want to do. It's not one of those decisions you just make quickly. For me (with my 2nd loss), I chose to do a D&C because my body was showing no sign of having the baby leave anytime soon, plus I just wanted to get it over with and move on. Keep in mind that even if you choose to go the natural route, you may still end up with a D&C if all the tissue didn't pass.
The D&C wasn't hard at all, it's been after that's been tough. It took almost 9 weeks for my period to come back, and even then it wasn't normal. Thirty days after that, my cycle came back but I had no bleeding, so I'm not on Prometrium. It's put a big delay in our TTC process. I'm not trying to scare you, but I wish someone had told me this could have been a possibility when I was making my choice. It's been hard to deal with emotionally.
Good luck, and I know you will choose what's best for you.
TTC #1 since 7/08 After 3 years, 2 losses, 3 rounds of IUI, and one round of IVF, we finally have our dream come true! DS born 7/30/11
TTC #2 off and on since 7/12
hi there, so sorry for your loss. {{{HUGS}}} Our OB, after telling us no hb could be found (i was 8.5 wks along), offered to schedule us for another u/s, just to confirm in everyone minds that the baby had passed before an d&e was performed. He gave us the choice of a natural m/c or d&e and we decided on a d&e. I didn't know when my uterus would 'catch on' to what had happen and finally m/c. I just didn't think I could stand that wait not knowing when it would happen so opted for the d&e. I think it was best for helping to move forward the fastest.
so we did end up getting another u/s, there was no change and had the d&e the next day.The procedure was not to bad, physically. I was put out, it was outpatient. Had some very minor bleeding afterwards and some pretty bad cramps a few days after but heard bad cramping can happen with a natural m/c too.
it was kind of hard going in for that second u/s but on the otherhand it did confirm to me that the baby def passed before I okay'd the d&e so it was worth it in the end.