Need help on how to deal with this

nhonzel · November 2009

I need advice on how to move forward in this situation which has come to a head. Our dog has become such a problem in the house I just dont know what to do. He is now 10 and never had formal obedience training or any training for that matter when I got him (at 3 y/o). This was "somewhat manageable" when the baby wasn't around and I know its going to sound like now that the baby is here we cant handle the pet. But its gotten to a point where I cant even put my son down so he can learn to crawl without the dog all over him. I put the dog out and he barks so loud that neighbors have complained. Putting him in the garage does no help either. I tired putting the dog in a closed bedroom but he pees and poops all over because he cant get out. He barks and barks and wakes the baby all the time. He does not listen to any commands whatsoever and when we have guests over he licks and jumps all over them. I have yelled at him before because I was mad and it scared the baby and then I was upset and bawling. It has gotten so bad that I have taken him to the kennel overnight just to get him out of the house. We have considered doggie daycare but our dog is aggressive with other dogs and hasnt been accepted anywhere. We spoke to our vet who suggested meds for behavioral issues but that will cost over $150 per month. Our other option is "re-training" him with intensive therapy but that would mean both DH and I be involved 110% on it and I can barely get DH to take the dog for a walk. DH doesn't want to get rid of the dog but DH also doesn't currently participate too much in his care either.

We have extremely limited funds right now and can barely afford to get by each month so kenneling and the meds arent a realistic option right now. I need advice, has anyone else dealt with this? I am at the end of my rope.

pivey · November 2009

What breed is this, can I ask?

Miss.Modular · November 2009

nhonzel:
I Our other option is "re-training" him with intensive therapy but that would mean both DH and I be involved 110% on it and I can barely get DH to take the dog for a walk. DH doesn't want to get rid of the dog but DH also doesn't currently participate too much in his care either.

don't be a$sholes, put the time and efford into training your dog. They aren't expendable things you can just get rid of after SEVEN years because you were too lazy to deal with any issues pre-baby. furthermore, if you DO get rid of him, what person is going to adopt a 10 year old dog? few people do this unfortunately-- so it will be euthenasia city. Do you think he deserves that???

secondly, the dog needs exercise, A LOT of it. so go for walks with him and the baby, or tell your husband to stop being a shmuck and walk him every day. exercise can cure a variety of behavior issues, especially if the dog is acting super hyper all the time.

nhonzel · November 2009

Of course - bulldog

nhonzel · November 2009

Miss.Modular:
nhonzel:

I Our other option is "re-training" him with intensive therapy but that would mean both DH and I be involved 110% on it and I can barely get DH to take the dog for a walk. DH doesn't want to get rid of the dog but DH also doesn't currently participate too much in his care either.

don't be a$sholes, put the time and efford into training your dog. They aren't expendable things you can just get rid of after SEVEN years because you were too lazy to deal with any issues pre-baby. furthermore, if you DO get rid of him, what person is going to adopt a 10 year old dog? few people do this unfortunately-- so it will be euthenasia city. Do you think he deserves that???

secondly, the dog needs exercise, A LOT of it. so go for walks with him and the baby, or tell your husband to stop being a shmuck and walk him every day. exercise can cure a variety of behavior issues, especially if the dog is acting super hyper all the time.

I wouldnt consider myself an *** but thank you for the compliment. I am just asking for advice on what to do currently.

yo.mama · November 2009

My opinion is going to be extremely unpopular, but I would find another home for the dog or give him to a shelter.

bananachiki · November 2009

the dogs behavious probably havent changed post baby, you're just less tolerant of his behaviour now that baby is here.

sorry to say, but this is all on you for not dealing with the behaviour problem before baby came.

and i totally agree with mod. your dog needs exercise. and attention. and training. be a resonsible pet owner and do what needs to be done. no one is going to adopt a 10 yr old bulldog.

preg_amy · November 2009

yo.mama:
My opinion is going to be extremely unpopular, but I would find another home for the dog or give him to a shelter.

I hate to say it... but I agree.

I like animals in general, but I'm not a pet person. That's why I should not get pets...

Miss.Modular · November 2009

repeat: NO ONE is going to adopt a 10 year old dog given up for behavioral issues. i would rather die than give up a dog after SEVEN years to be put to sleep.

bananachiki · November 2009

i agree with mod again.

if you're going to give your hyper (because of lack of effort on you and DH' part) 10 yr old dog up you might as well just put some potassium in his dog bowl because basically you'll be the ones "pulling the trigger"

irresponsible pet owner get me all rilled up. worse than people who don't signal in trafic.

nhonzel · November 2009

Miss.Modular:

repeat: NO ONE is going to adopt a 10 year old dog given up for behavioral issues. i would rather die than give up a dog after SEVEN years to be put to sleep.

Lol, you don't need to repeat it. I read you the first time. And who said anything about putting him to sleep?

pivey · November 2009

Well I'll pm or respond later but you happened upon one of mods hot buttons. She's not all wrong.

pivey · November 2009

Miss.Modular:
repeat: NO ONE is going to adopt a 10 year old dog given up for behavioral issues. i would rather die than give up a dog after SEVEN years to be put to sleep.

except me, of course. Still can't figure out what the supposed issue was...

nhonzel · November 2009

pivey:
Well I'll pm or respond later but you happened upon one of mods hot buttons. She's not all wrong.

no, she's not all wrong and I agree things could have been done differently - absolutely. But here we are and I am trying to find a solution. And there's a multitude of other things that go on as well I just spared people the mile long post.

amys715 · November 2009

This is a tough situation. Exercise and/or training would be best.

Consistancy is very important with pets. With the lack of time and $ is there someone in your neighborhood that could walk your dog daily? Maybe a teenager or even a relative? They would be cheaper than training and a teenager that loves animals would love to walk and play with your dog. You could try and see if it helps.

Good luck!

nhonzel · November 2009

amys715:

This is a tough situation. Exercise and/or training would be best.

Consistancy is very important with pets. With the lack of time and $ is there someone in your neighborhood that could walk your dog daily? Maybe a teenager or even a relative? They would be cheaper than training and a teenager that loves animals would love to walk and play with your dog. You could try and see if it helps.

Good luck!

Thanks for the post! We walk as much as we can but our dog has mild arthritis so he can make it around our park and is pooped. But it DOES help and I walk him as much as I can without hurting the poor guy. Its a very tough situation and not one I enjoy being in at all.

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