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Trouble in Potty land
Soooooooooo - Ben does great going on the potty when he's not wearing any pants at all. He goes by himself to the potty, without me having to remind him. The minute I put pants on him, all bets are off. We'll go through 2 or 3 outfits in day - and that's with me reminding him to go.
Since it's getting colder and walking around without pants isn't socially acceptable, what do I do? Any suggestions? I don't understand why he does so well when he's pantsless, but pants on it's accidents are us.
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Re: Trouble in Potty land
are they difficult or slow to get off? Probably it is just a lazy factor. Is it completely wrong to leave him in his wet pants for a while- esp if you remind him to go potty and he doesn't?
I admit that I have still done NO potty training research, so feel free to ignore this advice.
We had friends over last week or the week before and he peed in his pants and I didn't notice. I have no idea how long he was like that (It wasn't like hours, but maybe 10-20 mins?) and he clearly wasn't bothered by it.
I try to put him in sweat pants with no undies when we're at home. But he won't ask for help going. He just goes in his pants. But when he's pantsless he says "Oh no, what happened?" and then runs to the bathroom to potty. So he can get the sensation, and can hold it long enough to make it to the bathroom, but just doesn't do it when he's wearing pants.
Maybe I'll leave him in wet pants longer?
I mean, nothing on his body from the waist down. I leave his shirt on, but just take his pants and diaper/underwear off and let him play like that.
Have you tried just underwear then, and no pants? Maybe he feels like wearing pants is kinda like wearing a diaper. Obvioulsy you couldn't do that in public, but it might be a good transition.
Or a skirt?
We were doing pretty good for a while, and then I had the car accident and Ben stayed with Nana for a few days and we had to kind of start over. Maybe I'll try just the underpants in another few days. I feel like he needs a refresher in the whole potty thing anyway. We've been battling over EVERYTHING the past few weeks, and potty is one of them. If I leave the pants off it's up to him to go and he doesn't it on his own terms - which is part of the reason we've been battling; he wants to do everything by himself.
Coach, did you teach Grady how to pull up/down his pants? Ben seems to struggle with this.
Grady has just started pulling up/down his pants and underwear. The best advice on this is try to teach him to pull from the front and back not on the sides like we do.. does that make sense? For some reason or another he does a better job with it that way. He also wears a lot of pants with elastic like sweatpants. If he wears jeans I have to help him unbutton and all.
ETA- We are battling a lot these days too with everything. I think its the whole 3 really is worse than 2 phase... I'm not excited about it either!
GAH! I hate that we've been battling, but it's nice to know I'm not alone. He wants to do everything himself and his listening is out the window. So now, I say it 3 times, and if he doesn't obey by the third time I do it for him or he goes to timeout (depending what it is).
The other day, I swear just to spite me, he only peed 3 times ALL DAY. I was setting the timer because I thought maybe I was being too lax on the potty training business and trying to avoid accidents. He peed once at lunchtime, once in his diaper at naptime, and once at bathtime. GRRRR. Willful little shitts!
I know it is hard especially with this new found independence. When I try to "make" grady go before we leave the house and he doesn't really need to go (well in his mind he doesn't)it is a freaking nightmare.
Hopefully I'm not over stepping my boundaries when I say this but I think you should consider going with out diapers period- not at nap time, not at bedtime just for a few days and see how he does. There is something to be said for peepee running down their legs. I know it helped click with grady.
I'll try it. And see what happens. I'd say 9 times out of 10 he wakes up dry and I can pull the diaper off him. But yeah - the whole, pottying before we leave business - Drives me to drink!
DON'T TELL ME THAAAAAAT!!!!!!!!!!!
I have also heard that's how you should do it, and I believe how they prefer we do it at daycare when they start PT.
Everyone keeps telling me that 4 is the best. They keep pushing back the number!!! No fair!
It probably does just get worse and worse until they're 18 and don't live with you anymore. I think "they" just don't want us to get comfortable.
Ben has been such a butt! He cries over everything - I want to use the big potty!!!!!!! NO!!! I want to use the LITTLE potty. I CAN'T!!! I can't use that potty.
And it's not just the potty we do this with - it's fur-reaking EVERYTHING. And we had been having a really good run for a while there, and then all of the sudden a switch has been flipped. He went to bed happy and lovey Ben and woke up Evil Ben.
Halloween was a nightmare. I carried beer with me because that was the only way I was coping with that fun-fest.
Mikey I think this is so true.. We were at a friends house the other day she has a senior in high school and she was talking about how she couldn't sleep bc of something on her mind about her son and all I could think was..will I ever sleep again? haha! I really don't know. I think every age/stage has its struggles and when we make it out of it we are like shooo that one's down and you have just enough time to get charged up for the next round of whatever. It is a never ending cycle.
Yeah, and then we're crazy enough to think we might want another one!
MIL told me the other day she couldn't sleep when Eli was sick (he wasn't with her) because she was worried about him. I was like, get some sleep woman! But I guess it's proof you never stop worrying once you have kids. I don't know, when he stays the night with one of our parents, I sleep pretty dang good!
You guys are not making me look forward to 3 though. Actually, we are doing ok with 2. But he is SO dramatic, I don't want to think about how much worse it could get.