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Resources for SAHMs that need to escape?

I caught my husband cheating on me the night I went into labor with my son. Obviously, it didn't go down with me being very nice about what I saw and I think his guilt mixed with booze made him act out. Things are really bad now and I don't think I should stay with him.

But, I don't have any friends or family that will help me. Does anyone know where I can turn? I'm so scared.

 

Re: Resources for SAHMs that need to escape?

  • OMG

    Sh!t.  First, I am soooo sorry that you are going through this!!!  We talked a little at the Washington Park GTG, do you remember me?  I will do a little bit of research for you today and see what I can find.

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  • Faith,

    I have to agree with Jen, I am so so so sorry you're having to go through this, especially with no friends or family you can turn to.  My only suggestion that I can think of, would be to go through DHS (Department of Human Services).  I KNOW Welfare sounds awful and a horrible way to go, but they could at least give you some advice if nothing else.  They can also help you find low cost housing, help you find a job or put you back through schooling if that is the route you choose.  They can also help with food and daycare and they'll ensure that your (ex) husband pays child support and does his part as well.  I know it's all very scary and if you need a shoulder, we're all here!!  Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help, even if it's just to hang out or help with the kids so you can have some time. 

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  • Maybe while you are figuring out exactly what you want to do you could start seeing a counselor for yourself. Not to "treat" you, but to help maintain your self esteem and confidence and help you feel empowered and strong. This sounds horrible, and the fact that it came at probably the worst time possible makes it that much worse. First and foremost take care of yourself and your baby!
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    I caught my husband cheating on me the night I went into labor with my son. Obviously, it didn't go down with me being very nice about what I saw and I think his guilt mixed with booze made him act out. Things are really bad now and I don't think I should stay with him.

    But, I don't have any friends or family that will help me. Does anyone know where I can turn? I'm so scared.

     

     Oh Faith, I am so sorry to hear about your situation.  My heart goes out to you. 

    https://www.dshs.wa.gov/default.shtm

    West Women & Children's Shelter
    Business phone: 503-224-7718
    Crisis line: 503-224-7718
    View Services

    Portland Women's Crisis Line
    Business phone: 503-232-9751
    Crisis line: 503-235-5333 or 888-235-5333
    www.pwcl.org
    View Services

    https://www.dvrc-or.org/domestic/violence/resources/C51/

     

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  • Your profile info says you're in Vancouver.  You should contact the Clark County YWCA.  They have many low cost and free programs and should be able to help.  If they don't have the program you need, I'm sure they can refer you to another local organization.

    https://ywcaclarkcounty.org/ 

    General: 360 696 0167

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    imagefaithhollett:

    I caught my husband cheating on me the night I went into labor with my son. Obviously, it didn't go down with me being very nice about what I saw and I think his guilt mixed with booze made him act out. Things are really bad now and I don't think I should stay with him.

    But, I don't have any friends or family that will help me. Does anyone know where I can turn? I'm so scared.

     

     Oh Faith, I am so sorry to hear about your situation.  My heart goes out to you. 

    https://www.dshs.wa.gov/default.shtm

    West Women & Children's Shelter
    Business phone: 503-224-7718
    Crisis line: 503-224-7718
    View Services

    Portland Women's Crisis Line
    Business phone: 503-232-9751
    Crisis line: 503-235-5333 or 888-235-5333
    www.pwcl.org
    View Services

    https://www.dvrc-or.org/domestic/violence/resources/C51/

     

    If you need just a friend to talk to, you can always give me a call.  I will listen. :)  Now if I could figure out how to send you a PM I will give you my phone number. :)

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  • Oh wow, I have no idea what to say. I am so sorry you are going through this. I'll be in the 'couve soon to pick up a car that I'm buying. I'd love to get together if you're feeling up to it.
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