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Attachment Parenting
jiffy-pop
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What is attachment parenting please?
jiffy-pop
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I'm a newbie and I've never heard of this before. Can someone please explain?
Married 5/31/08 * TTC#1 9/09 - 2/11
after anovulatory diagnosis and TTC for 1 1/2yrs with several medicated cycles and one chemical pregnancy, we have our first bundle of joy!
IT'S A GIRL!
#2 EDD 2/5/13 dx with anti-BIG E antibody, seeing a MFM
I don't take one single minute for granted.
after anovulatory diagnosis and TTC for 1 1/2yrs with several medicated cycles and one chemical pregnancy, we have our first bundle of joy!
IT'S A GIRL!
#2 EDD 2/5/13 dx with anti-BIG E antibody, seeing a MFM
I don't take one single minute for granted.
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Re: What is attachment parenting please?
Quoting from https://www.attachmentparenting.org/
"Attachment Parenting is a philosophy based in the practice of nurturing parenting methods that create strong emotional bonds, also known as secure attachment, between the infant and parent(s). This style of parenting encourages responsiveness to the infant or child's emotional needs, and develops trust that their emotional needs will be met. As a result, this strong attachment helps the child develop secure, empathic, peaceful, and enduring relationships."
It means different things to different people (there is no litmus test), but in general, it's a 'baby-led' parenting style which (speaking for my own understanding only here) focuses on encouraging parents to respond to their children (without fear of spoiling) and trust their instincts (to hold, cuddle, soothe, and feed) over any book or baby-managing plan.
Hope that helps.
after anovulatory diagnosis and TTC for 1 1/2yrs with several medicated cycles and one chemical pregnancy, we have our first bundle of joy!
IT'S A GIRL!
#2 EDD 2/5/13 dx with anti-BIG E antibody, seeing a MFM
I don't take one single minute for granted.
I don't think "nearly all mothers" attachment parent. Lots of people believe in "crying it out" as a sleep solution, for example, and many people also believe in trying to get your baby on a predetermined "schedule" which is not really in line with AP either.
Many who consider themselves AP also practice babywearing, which many people don't do/understand.
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
I didn't create the term (or the board) so I can't speak to that.
I can, however, tell you that although most of the hallmarks of this parenting style were things that I naturally felt were right (and I think most moms do), I do feel a lot of societal pressure to ignore my instincts-- getting negative comments for holding him "too much", feeding him on demand, tending to his needs at night (not letting him CIO), and things of that nature.
I've often felt like I was a bit of a failure because I couldn't wedge my baby into the life I had pre-pregnancy- so it's been encouraging for me to find a parenting philosophy which focuses less on how to make my baby more convenient, and more on how to nurture the bond between us.
Again, I'm only speaking for me.
I responded to you over on 0-3, but I just wanted to emphasize that I think the difference between AP and more "traditional" styles of parenting becomes more apparent as our babies grow older. Many people "co-sleep" (i.e. bassinet beside the bed), breast feed, and wear their babies in a Bjorn or Moby or something when their babies are very young. But most APs plan to do these things for an extensive time, until our babies are ready to stop.
Further, we do these things for our child's benefit (and to foster the bond between parent and child), not for convenience (the impression I get on 0-3 is that many people use things like the Moby so they can get stuff done around the house, or have their baby in the room with them so they don't have to go far in the middle of the night - not that there's anything wrong with this justification, but it's probably different than the reasons APers do them).
after anovulatory diagnosis and TTC for 1 1/2yrs with several medicated cycles and one chemical pregnancy, we have our first bundle of joy!
IT'S A GIRL!
#2 EDD 2/5/13 dx with anti-BIG E antibody, seeing a MFM
I don't take one single minute for granted.
That's the thing... a lot of mom's DON'T do this. Many parents feel that they will "spoil a baby if they hold them to long" or "I don't even want to try BFing because nipples freak me out" or "my baby will be just fine in his carseat 24/7, he doesn't need to be held" or "my 6 week old baby can cry for hours and I will just let him cry" etc etc etc...
AP means something different for everybody I think...for me it means really loving on my baby, snuggling alot, and helping her feel close to me. I'm not a hardcore AP'er, but a lot of it works for me and my family.