We went thru this too.
Thought I'd share some suggestions for things that might help:
1. Make a routine for toothbrushing. For us it's "Jace's turn first" then "Mommy's turn" and then "Jace's turn again". If he won't give it up for "mommy's turn" I tell him that he can help and we'll do it together. I put my hand over his and guide him thru a good brushing.
2. Try making up a silly brushing song so they have an idea of when brushing is supposed to be over. Now that they know the song they both let go of the brush when the song's done.
3. Let DC put the brush away. Tell him/her it's time to say "bye bye toothbrush" and let them drop it in the drawer. Like most other things they just want control. Give it to them - but have it on your time line and what you need them to do.
May not work for everyone but having been thru it twice those were the things that lessened the tears at our house.
And LMAO at all our little ones so he!l bent on proper dental care!
Re: Calling the "toothbrush tantrum" mommas...
Thanks for the tips! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one going through this.
Hope all is well with you!
My girls loooove to brush their teeth in the bathtub, so that handles one per day. They do it themselves, but they actually do a pretty decent job.
The other one we do in front of the mirror. They get to stand on the counter with me holding them, so that's a good time.
Oh we have tantrums at our house dealing with teeth. Eli takes his toothbrush and takes off and trys to brush the dog's teeth. Blech.