That woman...

NavyWife1989 · November 2009

You know that one woman that you are scared to tell that you are pg? The one that has been trying for a while? And you got pg so quickly? I'm pretty sure I was that woman for a lot of my friends... actually, I know I was for a few of them. Five of my friends got pg while me and dh were trying with no luck. Each of them seemed nervous to tell me, but truthfully and guniunely happy for them. I even took the ones that lived near me out to dinner.

But anyways. My point is, you shouldn't have to be worried about telling your TTC friends. I'm sure they will be very happy for you just the same! And... They will get theirs too!

I got mine! Big Smile

Imanurse03 · November 2009

I'm glad you got your BFP! But I disagree in that you shouldn't worry about telling your TTTC friends. I have struggled through 3 miscarriages and 3 years of IF. Each pg announcement stung. While I was happy for their news I was devastated for myself. It just reminded me of what I couldn't seem to have. And not everyone will get their BFP one day. Some may never be able to have a bio child. I hated it when people told me that my day would come when I was in the midst of a m/c or IF. I will continue to be sensitive in telling friends and family our news, should it progress well, who may also have IF.

Best of luck to you.

sucrets4 · November 2009

I was nervous about telling a coworker (who had a m/c at the beginning of the school year) and had posted on here about it awhile ago. I eat lunch with her, but we're not super close since I'm new at the school.

Turns out, she guessed! Came right out and asked me after I was out for a dr appt and she said that she was super happy for us and that anything that she had said in the past was due to a different situation with a close friend of hers.

MaryYVR · November 2009

Not to hijack this thread but CONGRATS Imanurse03! It looks like you've had a very long road to this BFP. I wish you a VERY H&H 9 months! I'm sending you lots of sticky dust your way.

MrsAmyB · November 2009

Congratulations! I think it depends on how the expecting mom goes about it. We had infertility issues and I enjoyed to hear my friends announce their pregnancies. What did burn me was the friend who complained about the bad timing of her pregnancy would tell me that "it will happen if it's meant to be". I finally snapped at her and she called me the next day after her DH explained how this could hurt someone and appologized profusely.

shareleann · November 2009

I was very nervous to tel a co-worker of mine who had only a week prior revealed to me her infertility issues. I knew she had been trying for a while, and I had heard rumors about her sensitivity to the issue. It turns out that she has been my biggest supporter! She is even planning on throwing my baby shower! I still try to be sensitive about the issue because i know that even though she acts very happy for me, it must sting a little. But I am very thankful for her & very glad that i told her first!

nnbarriere · November 2009

My co-worker that's been TTC for the past 3 years or more was not all that excited for me. She never once said congrats or anything. Before I told her, she would always call me complaining about how pregnant women at work used their pregnancy as an excuse to get out of work. She would say that one of the ladies looked so dead and didn't even look pregnant and that she hoped she didn't look like that whenever she got pregnant. To put all the icing on the cake, she said to another lady (7 months preg.) that people that have miscarriages should be able to park in the expectant mother's parking area. That lady lost her baby 2 weeks later.

I was nervous to tell her, but I didn't want her to hear it from someone else, since she confides in me. Our conversations now are very limited.

sblaisure · November 2009

I agree and disagree with this. I'm still nervous to tell that woman.... who just found out she can't have children at all. After years and years of treatments and even 2 IVFs, the doctor finally confirmed that she cannot conceive at all. She knows that DH and I have also been trying for awhile, and it was something we kind of had in common. But now i'm afraid to tell her. She will be happy, I know that. But it's also going to devistate her.

MermaidNM · November 2009

I don't know about telling her but I agree, definitely be positive about the pregnancy around her. I had wanted to start trying at the beginning of the year but my husband lost his job and we just couldn't. My friend who had her baby a month ago couldn't stop complaining about how hot she was and how she wished she hadn't gotten pregnant their first month of trying and how everyone just thought she was fat and how not being able to have a turkey sandwich was ruining her life. I just wanted to shake her and scream at her about how lucky she was to get pregnant so quickly and all...

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