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Damn H....vent

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I know H is always a little bummed that he works far from home and doesn't get to spend as much time with us as he would like. And I also know that H beign a man, doesn't quite get what we do at home. But why the hell has be been nasty lately? Every night when he comes home he's either really hostile for just ignores me.

I've had to rearrange things because the babies needed more room to walk and I get yelled at for letting them have books in their area. Never mind the fact that I moved all of his comics so they couldn't get ruined and put a lot of others in the basement until DC are old enough.  Apparently 10 books (mostly board books) is too much. He won't help me find brackets to put on DS's dresser or put latches on the drawers. And I'm the one that does all the cleaning and baby stuff while he just watches. He thought about helping more when they did a news report saying that H's that do housework get more nooky, but that didn't happen.

 For days now H as been pissy every time he comes home. I get that he's getting ready pfor the hollidays at work, but he has 1 1/2 hours to decompress on his way home! He ddin't really have a day off this week and as a result, I haven't been able to go grocery shopping. It just isn't logistically possable with the twins. I've had long days at school, and MIL can't watch DC for that long without stressing out. So we have no meat except for hamburger and fish, which H won't eat. And if I even think about making something with out meat, god help me. Last night I was going to order pizza, but I got a lecture about wasting money (this from the man that buys comic books), so burgers it was.

And thins morning, after DS got up early like most other tot's, he came down in another pissy mood, even though he got 3 more hours of sleep. And after a few hours of being miserable and b!tching about EVERYTHING, he wanted go get some! *^$@#%&%$#!$^&

 

 

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Re: Damn H....vent

  • WassygirlWassygirl
    have you talked to him about how he is making you feel?
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  • Mrs.McLovinMrs.McLovin member

    1.5 hours to decompress--are you talking about his commute home? Because that isn't a good time to decompress.

    I would talk to him and find out what is going on.

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  • crazytmogirlcrazytmogirl
    Commute does not = decompression time to me. It is the most stressful part of my day!  I'm sorry that he is acting this way.  Maybe try talking to him to see if anything else is going on.  Tell him that if he doesn't like the way you've rearranged things and the toys you've given the kids to play with (or books, whatever), he is more than willing to offer suggestions instead of just complaining about it.  Tell him that if you cannot go grocery shopping and he won't eat the food in the house, he can help out by shopping or cooking, or just eating the dang pizza!
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