I've mentioned how hard my DH is taking this loss. It's like, the last two losses, he was so sad but felt like our future would be okay. He had hope, and that helped with his grief (and believe me, he grieved for a long time). But he is so angry this time. I think he feels like the chances of us having a healthy baby have gone down so much with this loss, and he knows what we have ahead of us with the testing and RE visits.
Anyway, I think he needs his parents. Mine live ten minutes away and have been great, but I think he needs his mom and dad to be here for a little while. So I wrote to his sister to see if she could feel out the possiblity of them coming soon for a weekend - I don't want to put them on the spot if money and time are tight.
I just hope he doesn't feel resentful that I stepped in. He's not the type who would normally, but he is so fragile right now. But he would never put anyone out, and I just feel like he needs support and love right now. I mentioned the possiblity to him, and he was sort of vague about it. I hope they come through and can be here for him.
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Oh, I'm so sorry, I didn't know u were going through this again! ((hugs))
I think it was very thoughtful of you.
Is he close with his parents? My DH is not close with his family so in our case I think he would be more stressed out about putting on a brave face for family.
I do hope having his family around helps.
BFP/Labor/Everything Buddy: Papetvet/Erpetdoc
I think this was really thoughtful of you. it sounds like your dh is similar to mind, and the last thing he would think of is asking on his own - or reaching out ( all of my DH's close friends and all of his family are far far away).
at one time I asked DH's good friend to come in for the weekend when he was really down, and even helped pay for part of the ticket. DH was furious - he said he didn't want anyone around, etc. - then ended up having a great weekend.
BFP #1 2-8-09 Natural M/C 6w1d 2-19-09
BFP #2 5-28-09 C/P 6-1-09
BFP #3 10-30-10 Natural M/C 12-8-10
BFP #4 1-16-12 EDD 9-18-12 Stick baby stick!!
They are amazingly close. I know he wants them here, it's just that he would never ask anyone to put themselves out for him.
Then I think it's 100% the right thing to do! I'm assuming his family already knows about your loss, correct? Maybe remind them that he may not be open to discussing it on his own, but that you know he just needs his family to be there and be strong for him.
BFP/Labor/Everything Buddy: Papetvet/Erpetdoc
It was brave of you to contact his sis, but a good thing to do. Hopefully she can provide him the support he needs. The best thing for both of you to do is reach out to your support systems. I am so sorry you are at this point once again.
BFP #2 - 6/24/09-mc 7/25/09 @8wks
6/09 Dx w/PCOS--Metformin & Progesterone
8/09 Dx w/Compound Hetero MTHFR--Neevo, Metanx & BA
BFP #3 - 1/11/10 - DD1 born 9/16/10 @39w4d, 8lbs 14oz & 20in.
Heparin from BFP to 34wks.
BFP #4 - 10/4/11 - DD2 born 6/2/12 @38w1d, 8lbs 11oz & 21in.
Same med protocol as last time, but heparin continued until delivery.
BFP #5 - 3/30/14, EDC 12/10/14!!
Beta #1-76 (12dpo), Beta #2-238 (14dpo)