Trying to Get Pregnant

Newest SIL Saga

As you may remember, SIL is pregnant with her third.  In-laws have NO concept of what it's like to have any problems getting pregnant because the longest it's ever taken was 3 months for them.  Without realizing it, they make rude comments to me ALL THE TIME about not being able to get pregnant so I've gotten to the point where I just try to avoid them.  DH just spent some time with them and explained very clearly that they need to stop because it's hurtful to me and getting to be a sensitive topic.

 

So yesterday I find out that I didn't ovulate, with Clomid, again.  I come over to the in-laws today to see the kids in their costumes.  (DH convinced me that they would be more sensitive after his talk.)  I walk in and SIL gives me 1. "What to expect when you're expecting" 2. "The New Father" and 3. a baby brag book.  She smiles and says, "It's for when... well... you know, you do get pregnant in the future."

 

Any way to just cut her out of my life for a while?  Can you do that with an in-law?  I'm getting really sick of this and every unsuccessful month I just get more annoyed. I know she's never been there so she doesn't understand but I've never had cancer and I can still be empathetic to my mom. I don't buy her shampoo for "when her hair grows back". ARGH!

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  • Boo!! That is very insensitive of her! I wish I had good advice, but knowing me I would blurt out something like 'don't you think that is wrong to say..." and get in more trouble!
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  • That really sucks!  How does she not get the hint that you don't wanna hear anything from her about getting pregnant?!  I would have already cut her out for awhile, let her get the hint that way.  It's not for the same issues, but I cut DH's grandma out of my life awhile ago.  She just causes way too much stress and is a nasty, horrible person.  I wish you the best of luck.  You have to do what's going to be the best for you and DH should understand.
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  • (((HUGS))) I feel your pain. I don't ovulate, either...we've been trying for 4 months so I can only imagine what it's like not ovulating with Clomid.

    But, I always tell people "I don't have eggs. You can't bake a cake without eggs." It's kinda funny the embarrassed look on their face, plus it shuts them up.  I'm always a fan of calling people out (in front of others if possible). After all, they embarrass you and put you on the spot, right? Do this, and she may just write YOU off for a little while. LOL.

    More (((HUGS))) and I hope your saga will be overwith soon!

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    (((HUGS))) I feel your pain. I don't ovulate, either...we've been trying for 4 months so I can only imagine what it's like not ovulating with Clomid.

    But, I always tell people "I don't have eggs. You can't bake a cake without eggs." It's kinda funny the embarrassed look on their face, plus it shuts them up.  I'm always a fan of calling people out (in front of others if possible). After all, they embarrass you and put you on the spot, right? Do this, and she may just write YOU off for a little while. LOL.

    More (((HUGS))) and I hope your saga will be overwith soon!

    I agree!  If she thinks it's okay to do that to you, I would do it right back!  Give her a taste of her own medicine! 

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  • Sounds like you are having a rough day.  Between not O'ing and your IL's.  It is a shame some people just can't mind their own damn business.  Sorry that you are going through this! 

    Best of luck  with ovulating next cycle.  I would totally avoid them for the next month or so.  Make it obvious and maybe they will get the point?  That is what I do.

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  • I'd also like to add that my SIL is a huge biitch too...I know I should be over it, but she bought the same wedding dress as me and I'm still a little peeved by it.  I take a long time to let things go.  Granted I did get to wear mine first, but don't you think that's shitty?  
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  • I'm sorry... my ILs are so freakin fertile, too.  Everytime i see them they ask if i'm knocked up yet.  It really gets to me sometimes.  Get her a diet book!! Devil lol JK... be tough.  Your time will come!
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    I'd also like to add that my SIL is a huge biitch too...I know I should be over it, but she bought the same wedding dress as me and I'm still a little peeved by it.  I take a long time to let things go.  Granted I did get to wear mine first, but don't you think that's shitty?  

    WTF?? I avoided dresses that looked like ones any family have worn.  What a biatch!!!

  • imageryaroberts:
    I'd also like to add that my SIL is a huge biitch too...I know I should be over it, but she bought the same wedding dress as me and I'm still a little peeved by it.  I take a long time to let things go.  Granted I did get to wear mine first, but don't you think that's shitty?  

    WTF?? I avoided dresses that looked like ones any family have worn.  What a biatch!!!

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    imageryaroberts:
    I'd also like to add that my SIL is a huge biitch too...I know I should be over it, but she bought the same wedding dress as me and I'm still a little peeved by it.  I take a long time to let things go.  Granted I did get to wear mine first, but don't you think that's shitty?  

    WTF?? I avoided dresses that looked like ones any family have worn.  What a biatch!!!

    Seriously!  She's crazy!  She was in my wedding so the whole, "Oh, I never even realized it could be the same dress" was BULL BUTTER! 

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  • Yeah... so she decided to go out shopping and came home with tons of new outfits for her new baby.  She was like, "I want you to see the new outfits I just bought!!"  I yelled to DH, "Drink... get one for me... NOW!!!"  She comes over to me and was like, "I hope you're not mad at me for giving you the books... please understand I'm not trying to push you or anything. I just thought they could be for... well... later."  I looked at her and said, "Don't matter how hard you push.. I can't ovulate so pushing won't do anything... but thanks anyway."  I felt kind of bitchy but didn't know what else to do.
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