Having a baby and a toddler

murfygirl · October 2009

Seems very terrifying! The thought of one doesn't really scare me its all one on one and just his needs need to be met. But, the thought of having a toddler and a newborn seems very terrifying! I know we want more than one so at some point I will have a toddler and a baby.

Anyone else feel this way?

MrsRebecca · October 2009

Yes. Especially during first tri (before things even got really bad) I thought to myself, "how the heck do 2nd time moms do this?" There were days where I couldn't get out of bed because all I did was barf.

jknallen · October 2009

I will have a baby and a toddler and I'm not really scared about it. I guess that is because I know what having a newborn baby is like (not that every baby is the same, but their needs are the same) and I know what I need to do for my toddler. I'm not worried about it at all. I think that once you are ready for another one you won't feel this way anymore. I can see why you would feel that way though. I'm sure that if I thought about it two years ago I would feel the same as you do now.

Shell24 · October 2009

I was nervous when I first got pregnant. Now I'm totally calm about it, although every once in a while when I'm reading a story to my DD at bedtime I'll think, shoot, the nights DH is gone, what will I do if the baby is screaming, etc.? We won't be able to tagteam the kids. (He's a fireman). But I don't stress too much about it. Too late to change anything now LOL

I might be a bit in denial. My DD was the easiest baby. Started sleeping 11pm-5am a few weeks in, was STTN very early on, and has been an awesome sleeper ever since. She takes naps anywhere. My DH I went out to dinner with friends last Tuesday at 7:30, her bedtime. She hung out for a bit, and fell asleep in her stroller. I just pray this baby will be the same. That's probably what I'm scared about

murfygirl · October 2009

I know! There were days were I got home from work and just slept! If I have Mr Silas who will probably be between 2-4 he will still very much need my attention. I worry about after a new LO comes too. I mean if Silas is only 3 and sick I am still his mommy too but I will have a newborn too! Talk about multi tasking! LOL

murfygirl · October 2009

My sisters ( one has 4 kids the other has 3 kids) say the hardest change was going from one kid to two. They said it was harder than going from none to one and harder than going from two to three

Calibride31304 · October 2009

On and off, but I'm ready for it! Good thing since DS will be 26 months when DS2 is born.

kate930 · October 2009

Shell24:
I was nervous when I first got pregnant. Now I'm totally calm about it, although every once in a while when I'm reading a story to my DD at bedtime I'll think, shoot, the nights DH is gone, what will I do if the baby is screaming, etc.? We won't be able to tagteam the kids. (He's a fireman). But I don't stress too much about it. Too late to change anything now LOL
I might be a bit in denial. My DD was the easiest baby. Started sleeping 11pm-5am a few weeks in, was STTN very early on, and has been an awesome sleeper ever since. She takes naps anywhere. My DH I went out to dinner with friends last Tuesday at 7:30, her bedtime. She hung out for a bit, and fell asleep in her stroller. I just pray this baby will be the same. That's probably what I'm scared about

Ha, that is what my mom always said about before she had me. My sister was an angel and really easy, so she figured she could handle twoclose together. Then I came out a hellion!

She then had 3 more children, so apparently she didn't learn her lesson.

At the same time, I only want 2 children, but I really want them close together. I had such a great time having a sister close in age. I don't know if she enjoyed it so much, but I would love that same experience for my kids. (We are 15 months apart, by the way.)

Shell24 · October 2009

I've heard that too, that going from one to two is harder than going from two to three. I would argue, though, that going from none to one could be a bigger adjustment for some.

Shell24 · October 2009

kate, stop scaring me!!!!!

j/k, I'm fully prepared that this baby is going to be completely opposite. That way, I'll be pleasantly surprised if it's not

My DD will be 21 months old when this baby is born. I think it will be a good amount of time between the 2. Having them about 2 years apart is a great space I think.

And kate...we really want 3, I don't think I'll learn my lesson if this baby is a hellion!! That's awesome that you have a big family. I'm an only child, but my DH is the 3rd of 4 boys, so I love the idea of a big family. But 3 is pushing it, since we want to be able to go on vacations every year, pay for their college, etc. I'm somewhat looking forward to the chaos!

murfygirl · October 2009

Shell24:
I've heard that too, that going from one to two is harder than going from two to three. I would argue, though, that going from none to one could be a bigger adjustment for some.

Yeah I think going from none to one could be a huge change for some people. The women in my family are natural mommies LOL My mom has 7 kids so my older sisters were always 2nd mommies to the younger ones and I have been nannying for 6 years so basically raising other peoples kids! I have potty trained my fair share already LOL

I could see how for some of my friends who had no younger siblings or any experience even changing a diaper it could be an Oh my what have I done feeling

s&jsmom · October 2009

This is my third. I have a 14 month old and a 3 year old already. I can say this: for me, going from 0 to 1 was MUCH MUCH MUCH harder then going from 1 to 2. So I am hoping that going from 2 to 3 will be a piece of cake!

murfygirl · October 2009

s&jsmom:
This is my third. I have a 14 month old and a 3 year old already. I can say this: for me, going from 0 to 1 was MUCH MUCH MUCH harder then going from 1 to 2. So I am hoping that going from 2 to 3 will be a piece of cake!

I've heard it is so you should be golden LOL although your LO's are close in age Big Smile

CrystalDaun · October 2009

::raises hand:: I am scared. I know how sore I'll be when I come home from the hospital and that DD won't understand why she can't try to climb my legs or crawl on me and why I can't pick her up right away. The thought of no naps when the NB sleeps because my (at the time) 19 mo. old will need me and only naps once a day. The thought of being up all night & having to function for my DD scares me. Then even things like grocery shopping, I can't put the baby carrier in the cart & DD in the upper part and have room for groceries, I'll def. have to "wear" the NB while I grocery shop. I do not have family support, there isn't anyone I can just call to come over, it's just me. DH works 65 hours a week. BUT, I was just as scared having my first and it honestly all becomes routine and you figure it out as you go so I'm just assuming it'll be the same w/ two so young. I'll figure it out as I go.

Tess12 · October 2009

I'm a little nervous, but not overly worried. So many women do it--it must be manageable. My mom says that you don't even think about it, you just do what you need to on a daily basis.

lite-bright · October 2009

I'm not looking forward to the first few months of sleep deprivation, that's for sure. :P

Or changing twice as many diapers until DD is pottytrained. Or not having as much one-on-one time with DD, but also not being able to give the new baby the same kind of undivided attention that she got when she was tiny. But we don't want just one child and I'd like to be done by 35 if we decide to have a third, so that kind of means I have to suck it up. :P

The first tri was hard, no doubt about it. It really, really sucked at times. A lot of times I would think, "It's freakin' unbelievable that anybody does this a second time, when they know what they're in for."

But it doesn't last forever, and you get a baby at the end.

kate930 · October 2009

Shell24:
kate, stop scaring me!!!!!
j/k, I'm fully prepared that this baby is going to be completely opposite. That way, I'll be pleasantly surprised if it's not
My DD will be 21 months old when this baby is born. I think it will be a good amount of time between the 2. Having them about 2 years apart is a great space I think.
And kate...we really want 3, I don't think I'll learn my lesson if this baby is a hellion!! That's awesome that you have a big family. I'm an only child, but my DH is the 3rd of 4 boys, so I love the idea of a big family. But 3 is pushing it, since we want to be able to go on vacations every year, pay for their college, etc. I'm somewhat looking forward to the chaos!

I didn't mean to scare - I think it's great! You will have so much fun with two babies.

Plus I need to see how it goes for you, to see if I can handle it. My mother is a baby whisperer and patient as a saint, so I can't use her as a role model!

Worcbride · October 2009

at first when we got PG w/DS I did--esp when it was twins (we since lost baby

. DD will be 22 months old when DS arrives. I have 2 friends who just had babies in Aug and their first LOs were 2yrs old--so I'll be relying on them big time.

gill4 · October 2009

I wasn't scared at all when we found out #2 was coming and they'd be 15mo apart. DD is 25mo's and DS is 10mo's and it is now so much easier. They really enjoy playing with each other already. You get a system down quickly. I had to work out all the logistics like how to get them both upstairs at the same time and bathed, etc, but I worked it out quickly. I can only have described it as moments of chaos, but otherwise survivable

My fear came the day I found out number 3 was coming and the age gap would again be 15mo apart. I think I went into shock, but am now very settled into the idea of having a very close group of 3.

nicolekleemann1 · October 2009

I am worried too. But I am mostly worried about giving both of them special love and mommy time so that neither doesn't feel left out. I also am worried about how I am going to keep my home clean. I barely have a enough energy to do that right now!

sunnybrook. · October 2009

I'm a little nervous for several reasons...primarily b/c we are having twins. Our foster son will be 2-1/2 when they're born. He came to us at 14 months, so we are inexperienced with newborns. On top of all this, we'll be moving out of state when the babies are 5 months old. We won't know a single person there. Overwhelming....just a bit

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