Are you putting LO's father on the birth certificate?
I have chosen not to. If he wants to fight to be on it, so be it, but I am doing everything possible to keep him out of our lives. I would never do this to anyone without good reason. I'm not going to get into my 'drama' here, but I will just say LO's father was abusive to me. I fear for mine and LO's safety just knowing he is out there, let alone, alone with my LO.
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I don't want money from him.
Usually 'all the costs' is just the paternity test, because if there is a question of paternity the judge (or usually just a clerk magistrate) will have you do that as a first step. If a court or lawyer wants paternity established, you may need to make your child available for the swab test, but often once the 'fathers' realize they will have to pay child support, they disappear.
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I don't think this is true in every state. My DH was not in the room when the birth certificate people came to get all my information. They just asked who the father was and his state of birth. He didn't have to be there, sign anything or show an ID. 6 weeks later the birth certificate showed up at our house. I live in NC.
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I'm not sure about that yet. I have mixed feelings about that. I know I don't want child support from him and I'm not going to go through any courts for paternity or support. He knows he has a responsibility and I'm not going to force it on him. But the reason I would want him on the birth certificate is for identity only. In the event that something should happen to him, God forbid, I then would want our child to have the identity that he was the father.
well if you are getting money from the state they will want money from him
The responses in this post wil help
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/24379877.aspx
This. In Missouri you have to put that you do not live with the father and you have to give his name. They will contact him about CS.