If you live close to your Mom....

Dani123 · October 2009

How involved is she in the kids lives?? Does it annoy DH if she wants to be around too much??? By "too much" I mean T ot T with you or visiting 1 or 2 times a month...

May524 · October 2009

SUPER involved. She watches DS every day and we usually see her 1-2x over the weekend. So, we see her a LOT! I don't consider 1-2x a month too much, nor would it annoy DH or I.

It doesn't annoy DH at all that my mom is involved. We are actually more bugged that his parents are not involved, kwim?

Sept17.05Bride · October 2009

Both of our parents live 5 min away. My parents are great! We don't see them a ton, but maybe once or twice a month (give or take). My IL's on the other hand...they want us to come over once a week for dinner (during the week, which can be hard with DH's work schedule). AND, we see them on weekends sometimes. Way too much, IMO.

brightning · October 2009

My mom lives far away, which sadly is how i like it. I have a feeling that if she lived close, she'd want to be involved in every little thing, which I have a problem with.

I think 1 or 2 monthly visits is fine. I think it's a little weird when grandparents want to do things like trick-or-treating. Those are parent things to do, IMO. You go through all of the daily struggles to get cute, fun times like Halloween. (I have issues, I know!)

FloF9 · October 2009

My parents watch the twins twice a week and miss them if I go without calling them over the weekends. Meanwhile the last time my inlaws saw the twins was last week and then like at their birthday (June). This is the extent of their involvement and my inlaws are younger by a decade.

May524 · October 2009

brightning:

I think it's a little weird when grandparents want to do things like trick-or-treating. Those are parent things to do, IMO.

Really? I find it totally normal to do things with family for Halloween. We are going to Trunk or Treat where my sister will be (with brother in law and neice), my parents are going and his great grandma. I think the more the merrier!

brittneycc1982 · October 2009

Very involved! And DH loves that they are so close. My mom and dad take pics of themselves every night and text them to me for Madi! lol

MIL only lives 2 minutes away and hasnt seen the girls in over a month!

KUJayhawkBride · October 2009

My parents moved down here to be close to D. It doesn't bother me at all. We see them on the weekends, once in a while during the week but my mom travels during the week so she's not even here.

My DH's parents live in another state, we see them about once every month or every other month. He doesn't have a problem with how much D spends with my parents, he thinks family is important.

I love it. I never had a super close relationship with my grandparents, and DH did. I think I missed out on that.

momofolivia · October 2009

we don't live close to our parents, but if we did 1-2x a month is not a lot at all. I would expect to see them that often - minimum.

Dani123 · October 2009

brightning:

My mom lives far away, which sadly is how i like it. I have a feeling that if she lived close, she'd want to be involved in every little thing, which I have a problem with.

I think 1 or 2 monthly visits is fine. I think it's a little weird when grandparents want to do things like trick-or-treating. Those are parent things to do, IMO. You go through all of the daily struggles to get cute, fun times like Halloween. (I have issues, I know!)

This is how DH feels EXACTLY...But I dont know sometimes I enjoy OUR family time but sometimes I feel like give her T or T if that'll make her happy. KEEP IN MIND, My kids are #8 and #9 on the grandkid count for DH's parents. So they are DONE! and in no way interested in day to day activities...Wkd here or there and holidays they are fine with...But for my parents, my kids are # 1 and #2...THe FIRST grandchildren so a big part of me understands that they dont want to miss anything.....and he says he does understand but I know my mom drives him Nuts!

kada626 · October 2009

My parents & my mil all live within 5-10 minutes of us. My mom & dad come by for short periods 15-20 minutes a couple times a month. My mil comes by about 2-4x's a month and spends the whole evening with us.

I could use less mil but I don't complain about it too much. DH never complains b/c he isn't here most of the time.

coffeeqween · October 2009

omg I would die without my mom! we live 30 min away from my parents and we do everything together. but I have a young mom she was 17 when she had me and my little sis is only 18 so my family in general is young. my mom watched ds #1 while we go to work so drives and meets us halfway 3xs a week to pick him up and we spend almost every sun together. my mom even has a room at the house for ds so he can stay the nite which ds loves. I think its weird when ppl have their damily close by and don't see each other like 3 times a week. we just put ds 1 in preschool so when ds 2 is born my mom can watch him when I go back to work. I feel so lucky to have such involved parents. my 39 yr old aunt was murdered by her husband 3 mos ago and to know that her kids will not have a mom when they get married and have kids just makes so sad and appreciate my mom so much more. u never know what will happen in life.

KristinKD · October 2009

Our parents are our primary babysitters, so they're very involved in DD's life. My mom and MIL each watch her one day a week while I work. We usually have dinner at their houses one or two weekend nights a month.

It doesn't annoy either me or DH because both our families are the same in terms of wanting to spend time with DD, but they're never demanding and never just stop by unannounced.

I certainly don't think one or two visits a much is too much, and I wouldn't mind if any of the grandparents wanted to come trick-or-treating with us.

Calips · October 2009

My Mom is 15 min away and pretty active with my DD. She watches her once a week and is my Go To person if I need someone to pickher up from preschool for me or something.

My Mom still has kids at home (my bro and sis are 16 and 18) so she is busy with her own life so not with us for every little thing. I often had her come with me to things like first dentist appt, shots and other stressful things when DD was smaller.

I wouldn't mind her trick or treating -- more the merrier.

My ILs live in other states so see my DD maybe once a year. I think I am fine with that because the longphone calls from my MIL that happen once every month or two are annoying.

Dani123 · October 2009

I think it doesnt help at all that my mom is single and lives alone...so she doesnt have a lot of other stuff to do, u know? She works at home, etc. She just doesnt want to miss ANYTHING!! I usually involve her in most things and I DO understand that dh wants OUR time which we do have but sometimes when he says no, I feel like "let her have her fun" who's it hurting.

marriedchick06 · October 2009

We live within a mile of my parents. She isn't really involved such as in coming over to visit them because its been 2 or 3 weeks since seeing them and things like that. Now my dad will stop over if its been a while. She will take B every great now and then to go play at the house with my little brother. I honestly feel like I "bother" her when I ask her to babysit so I normally don't. I know i got flamed high and low for this before but it makes me a little sad. I have so many memories with my grandparents I hope that once maybe they are a little older it will get better.

Now MIL LOVES to babysit and will come to our house to do so. MIL/FIL probably stop over 1x a week or every other week when they are in town (they only live 15 minutes away) to come see the kids.

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