3rd Trimester

DH going out on Halloween?!?

So my Dh really wants to go out on Halloween with his friends. Anyway, I have been to the hospital sooo many times for painful contractions I dont know if he should leave me. Im being induced on Monday if the baby doesnt come by then. The bars are about 5mn away but Im just worried he wont answer his cell, he may drink too much, etc. Even if I could drive myself to the hospital I would have to wake up DS and carry him too. My parents live next door so eveytime I HAVE gone to LAD DS is with them. However my parents have two costume parties that night in the city and will be gone. Not to mention Im kinda bummed that I will be sitting home all alone :( I told DH that I want him to be able to go out and have fun, but I also expressed my concerns and told him that Id like a companion Sat night. He still is unsure what he is doing but I know he really wants to go. What should I say? Any advice or opinions if you were in my situation? Thanks :) Oh and wanted to add: What about being around all those ppl?!?! What if he gets sick b2 days before baby? Then he cant come into the hospital.........I cant believe hes even considering it. How frustrating!!
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Re: DH going out on Halloween?!?

  • If it were me, DH wouldn't be going. ?I realize he needs to have fun with his friends, but you've got a lot going on and don't have anyone to fall back on if you would happen to go into labor.?

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  • This is just me, but there is no way in h*ll my DH would be going out two days before I get induced!  I really would want him there with me just in case...and can you imagine if he does drink and you go into labor how brutal that would be?  I would KILL my DH if he was drunk in the delivery room!
  • I'd probably want him home too... its his baby too that's on the way... IMO, he should be responsible about it. Perhaps you can give out candy together and watch a movie instead?
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  • FI and I made an agreement that he would not drink after I was full term. Since I could go into labor at any time, we don't want to risk him being too intoxicated to drive me to the hospital. So we will be hanging out with my mom on Halloween. Lame, I know, but it's just not worth the risk to me.

    In your situation, since you're contracting, I would tell him you really don't feel comfortable with him leaving you to go out and drink.

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  • Nope.  No way.  No how.  Not a chance.

    Baby Boy #1 born 1/15/2010

    Babies #2 & #3 arriving Spring 2014 (EDD June 18)

  • He can stay ONE Halloween. If he were my DH, he wouldn't be going. Actually my DH wouldn't even ask...
  • imageLadyJavy:
    I'd probably want him home too... its his baby too that's on the way... IMO, he should be responsible about it. Perhaps you can give out candy together and watch a movie instead?

    The worst part ( or in some cases best part) is that we live in a very secluded house in the woods. We dont get trick or treaters. So I will literally be home alone. Well except DS will be sleeping in his crib of course.

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  • Agree... If it were me, DH wouldn't be going either!! If you are being induced on Monday you two should enjoy your last 3 nights together alone!!! I wouldn't want to sit by myself either... I'm 36 weeks and DH won't be going out!! hahah.. Good luck!!
  • DH wouldn't dream of going out on halloween without me, especially if I were further along, like you are. We decided halloween bars/parties are not for us this year, and his brother is moving, so we are spending halloween at MIL's house and I am perfectly pleased. I don't think its wrong to want him to be with you, especially if the option to him going out is you staying home alone. Why can't you go with him? Is it some sort of guys only thing?
  • imageCJ2008:
    DH wouldn't dream of going out on halloween without me, especially if I were further along, like you are. We decided halloween bars/parties are not for us this year, and his brother is moving, so we are spending halloween at MIL's house and I am perfectly pleased. I don't think its wrong to want him to be with you, especially if the option to him going out is you staying home alone. Why can't you go with him? Is it some sort of guys only thing?

    I cant go with because I have to stay in with DS, Im in severe pain from contracting and they go out at like 9 or 10. Im exhausted by then. Plus trying to save my energy for delivery and to top it off I dont want to get sick from being out at a bar 2 days before induction......

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  • Honestly, this is something he shouldn't even be CONSIDERING and bothering you with. He needs to stay home.
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  • It may be a long time before he gets to go out again, so I would say let him go. Make up some ground rules.  He shouldn't be drinking if there is a chance you could go into labor any minute.  His phone should also be on vibrate with a loud ring tone and in his pocket so he knows if he is getting any emergency phone calls.  Perhaps he could also come home a little early so that you both are happy.  Hopefully he has his priorities straight and this is a reasonable request for him.
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  • imagepoison489:
    It may be a long time before he gets to go out again, so I would say let him go. Make up some ground rules.  He shouldn't be drinking if there is a chance you could go into labor any minute.  His phone should also be on vibrate with a loud ring tone and in his pocket so he knows if he is getting any emergency phone calls.  Perhaps he could also come home a little early so that you both are happy.  Hopefully he has his priorities straight and this is a reasonable request for him.

    Hell be able to go out whenever, thats not the problem. We live next door to my parents AND we live next door to my sister and BIL. We are surrounded by sitters not to mention we have a wedding 2 weeks later....LOL

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  • No way. Period.  I can't believe he would even assume it was ok that close to delivery.  You could go into labor ANYTIME.

    Besides, you have to suck it up and sit home, he needs to get over it and do the same.  Trust me... there will be A LOT of dissapointments to come in the social life dept.  It's called parenthood...

  • imagemadeleines_mommy:

    No way. Period.  I can't believe he would even assume it was ok that close to delivery.  You could go into labor ANYTIME.

    Besides, you have to suck it up and sit home, he needs to get over it and do the same.  Trust me... there will be A LOT of dissapointments to come in the social life dept.  It's called parenthood...

    Oops.... you already are parents... he should def know better.  With a toddler at home too!

  • I would be really against him going out.
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  • No way would DH be going out. He wouldn't want to leave me alone, and your DH should not either. It is both of your baby and not just yours! You need to know someone can take you to the hospital (sober) if need be. Also, I can totally understand not wanting to be alone with your DS. It seems unsafe. This is a big deal! If it were a few weeks ago, fine, but not when you are being induced Monday. Sorry DH, maybe next year!
  • imagesasky:

    Nope.  No way.  No how.  Not a chance.

    This.  Seriously.  

  • imageelliotandnicole:
    imagesasky:

    Nope.  No way.  No how.  Not a chance.

    This.  Seriously.  

     

    ditto.

  • No way in hell.  I agree with all pps, he shouldn't even be asking this close to your induction...and he's already a dad!  I would think he would rather hang out with you two before you guys become a foursome, jeez.
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  • imageilovemyprince:
    He can stay ONE Halloween. If he were my DH, he wouldn't be going. Actually my DH wouldn't even ask...

    THIS!

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