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Pregnant after a Loss
I feel like I was robbed
Lately I've felt like I've been robbed the joy of a first baby.
A first pregnancy.
I feel like: been there, done that. (until week 21 that is)
I just don't feel connected with this 2nd baby yet. Which makes me feel like a horrible mother.
A horrible person.
I feel like announcing the pregnancy to family/friends/coworkers is going to be anticlimactic...no one cares about a 2nd pregnancy as much as they do a 1st.
oh poo.
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Re: I feel like I was robbed
It has been very difficult for me being pregnant again. You are not a bad mother. Give it some time to sink in. You will encounter a lot of mixed emotions during your pregnancy and from what I've heard even after you have a healthy baby in your arms. You are only human and you are still grieving the loss of your first child.
As for family and friends some people will probably be very excited and others will be cautious. Try not to let them influence how you feel.
Good luck and I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!
I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's okay if it you connect to this baby differently, if it takes you a bit longer than it did when you were pregnant with Nicholas. You've been through a lot, and this definitely doesn't make you a horrible mother.
I hope your family, friends and coworkers surprise you by how happy and excited they are for you when you announce this pregnancy.
I think PP has it right - people are going to be super happy for you - but cautious partly because they may not know how you're going to react to and they may not want to make your grief more painful for you by remembering your first baby.
Many of us seem to feel robbed of that first joy and innocence that you have with a first pg. Try to take it one day at a time. Best wishes and congratulations.