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Pregnant after a Loss
lhcooper
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No idea if I'm actually here or not....
lhcooper
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Posting this here because DH and my mother know, but I really can't tell anyone else--and I'd be curious to hear if anyone else has a similar story. Here's the deal: I had a D&C at 10w (but stopped growing at 6w) on 9/15/09--my first pregnancy, and we had conceived pretty much on the first real try, so we're not worried about fertility issues (even though I'm 38 and DH is 50). Maybe we should have worried about super-fertility, however (keep reading). We knew we needed to wait at least one cycle before TTC, and we *wanted* to wait. We've had sex exactly once, on 10/10/09 (I know the date because DH and I don't live in the same state, but we were together that weekend, and I remember taking note of the fact that it was our "first time" since the surgery). We used the pull-out method, which, no, is *not* smart, but we have *always* used it reliably in the past. Perhaps we need to go back to 7th grade health class, because a few hours ago I called my OB's office to let them know that AF had not yet returned. The nurse asked if I could be pregnant. At first I said "absolutely not." Then I said, "well...." and went to buy a digital pregnancy test. You already know where this is going: BFP (twice over). The thing is, I am very aware that it could just be elevated hormones from the last pregnancy (though the D&C was six weeks and two days ago today). Unfortunately, I can't have a blood test to double-check things until Monday, since I happen to be with DH right now and am away from home. If we really are pregnant, we will be excited, but mostly very nervous b/c we know it was important to wait; in fact, even thinking I might be pregnant makes me think I might miscarry any second since it was probably too early (yes, I know there are some happy endings to these kinds of stories out there--here's hoping I'm going to have one). Meanwhile, I am dying for the bloodtest. Arrggghhh!!! How am I supposed to concentrate for the rest of the long weekend?
me - 41 (dx: DOR); DH - 53 (no problems);
7/18/09 - married!;
8/4/09 - BFP on first (real)try;
9/14/09 - missed m/c; 9/15/09 - d&c;
11/09 - 3/10 - 4 natural cycles = BFN;
4/10 - dx hyperthyroidism caused by Graves' disease;
6/10 - thyroidectomy;
7/10 - 12/10 - 1 natural and 5 medicated IUI cycles = BFN;
1/11 - new RE; dx low ovarian reserve (AMH .42;
1/26/11 -- BFP (ectopic) from IUI #6; methotrexate 2/10/11;
6/2/11 - IVF #1 = BFN;
9/12/11 - prescreening for DE;
9/15/11 - IUI #7 (unmedicated)= BFN;
11/8 - begin DE cycle (shared risk program);
12/5 - ER (5 eggs/4 mature/3 fertilized/2 left by day 5)
12/10 - ET of one 1BB blast (expanded, "fair" quality), none to freeze;
12/22 - totally shocked by +hpt; beta #1 = 413; #2 = 3952
2/14 - CVS reveals a healthy baby girl!
EDD: 8/27/12 DD born 8/31/12, 10 lbs 10 oz and perfect in every way.
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Re: No idea if I'm actually here or not....
First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope that this is your sticky baby! Have you had AF since the D&C? If so, then you are almost certainly pg! If not, then you still might be (as you well know). Either way, you are in my thoughts, and I hope this is it for you!
Thanks for the response! Nope, no AF. And no symptoms--I did have some cramping last Saturday morning and actually thought it was AF--even took some ibuprofen....I had very sore breasts last time around, and none of that this time--one reason to suspect it's hormone levels and not a real pregnancy.
Thanks to you all -- and Mrs. Diss, what a story! Were you actually trying after the 2nd m/c, or did it just...happen?
Anyway, I'm sort of wishing I'd waited until next week to take a pregnancy test--I could really use a drink! As DH and I just said to each other, in the end either way what we learn on Monday will be good news: either we didn't screw up and get pregnant possibly too early when we didn't mean to--and I can start taking meds to get my cycle back--or we actually are pregnant (truly, this is such a serious long-shot that I find it very hard to fathom), earlier than we thought possible (and, of course, with all the worry that comes with that after having had a m/c). Or I'll get AF this weekend and it'll be a non-issue....
Update: Had cramping this morning and AF (or what I guess could be a very early miscarriage....) just started. Still going in for blood test on Monday).
I have no idea what to feel!