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3rd Trimester
bellaleanne
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when I read a post about your DH
bellaleanne
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acting immature or asking stupid questions or not being sensitive to what you're going through with your pregnancy I think...
damn, I'm glad I'm single. I may be living with my mom and all but it must be really hard to deal with that sort of thing.
for all you women out there with mature, responsible, supportive husbands...where on earth did you find them? I'm not looking to snag a baby's daddy or anything, but how do you spot the good ones?
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Re: when I read a post about your DH
you took the words right out of my mouth!
My dh isn't absolutely perfect, no one is, but he's been awesome throughout this pregnancy and our whole relationship. I met him in HS and all I can say is I knew from the beginning that he was special. I didn't at first look at him romantically though, so I almost missed out. There's wonderful guys out there, you just can't write someone off because maybe you think they're not your type.
me too!!!
I might complain and rag on DH a lot, but he is the most amazing, supportive, understanding man I could have ever chosen to spend my life with. As angry as he may get me, I know I do the same to him. And I wouldn't trade him in for anything in the world.
Funny part is, when DH and I were first introduced, I took one look at him and blew him off (even though it was kind of set up for us to meet). It wasn't until he attempted to blow ME off that I became interested. And we've been completely in love since.
PS. Good relationships aren't hard to find or keep. BUT they require A LOT of maintaince. You'll know if he's the one when you both are willing to put in the time and energy required to make it work.
---PS... Can you all tell it's a good I LOVE DH day for me????? LMAO
I finally found a good one but I went through a lot of jerks before I did! I didn't find him until I was 29 and believe it or not we actually met online!
He's out there some where don't give up. My DH is not without his faults but everytime I see another person's DH acting like an a$$ I can't help but think how grateful I am to have him!
He's been nothing but extremely supportive and caring during my pregnancy. Just today he called an hour after my doctor appointment to see how everything went to make sure everything was on track. I love that man to pieces!
This. DH and I met at work and it took our boss (who was H's best friend too) giving us lift tickets to start talking. We both had a dont mix work and personal life and honestly wasn't my "type". He is 10 years older than me, had a Harley, smoker, divorced. But I was able to look past all that and found an amazing guy who I would not trade for the world.
As PP said good relationships are not easy they require a lot of work. Especially now when the relationship is going through a huge change. But in the end it's worth it.
Side note need AW DH, by the time LO is born he will have been smoke free for 3 years! He made up his mind one night, quit cold turkey and has never had another one. I am so proud of him!
There are great guys out there...you'll know when you find him!
My DH is great. He adores me (as I adore him), so we get along very well and don't really fight much. We know when each other needs space and we back off. I'm very crabby sometimes, so he just leaves me alone. It works for us! We were close friends before getting together, so maybe that had something to do with it? You never know where/when you'll find him, but don't give up!
Ha ha, although I don't necessarily reccomend this as a place to find a mature husband, I met mine at the bar. When we met, I was still at a stage where I really enjoyed going out and I really wasn't looking for any kind of relationship. DH has never been much of a drinker, if he has a drink it's an amaretto sour- such a woman!
The night we met he was the sober cab for his group, I was the complete opposite for my group. We ended up exchanging numbers and now we are married and have baby #1 on the way!
A good man is hard to come by! Best of luck with the pregnancy and future man-hunt endeavors!
Honestly my DH is awesome. Sure we fight once in awhile, who doesn't? But he's so respectful and would never say a nasty thing to me and he's always supportive and really just great. My luck with finding him was learning my lesson from all the past a-holes I dated and learning to spot warning signs of things and keeping them in line and not settling for anything less.
Also.. the biggest thing, is you kinda have to be a ***. I don't mean treat him bad, but you can't shower him with niceness and not get anything in return. Always give what you receive and nothing more. If you keep doing for him no matter who it is it will get out of control. It doesn't matter how nice a person is, if you show them they can take advantage of something eventually they will. Intentional or not.
I totally agree with pps on looking outside your "type". I dated a lot of guys who were attention seekers and immature. Then I met DH- he was mature, had his own life together, and was just really laid back, honest, and sweet. I know I wouldn't have looked twice at him when I was younger (we met when I was 25) but as I got to know him, I found he was the perfect match for me in every way!
But even with that, even the best relationships have their ups and downs. But the ups should outweigh the downs and the downs shouldn't be deal breakers for you.
This is very true. I have an awesome DH and we have a really great relationship, but we all have our shortcomings. Yes, my DH has been going through some different feelings right now, but he's been incredibly supportive through 25 weeks of HG hell and through my current job situation which sucks, and through all the glucose testing... I would never have wanted to do this alone.
And there are days that are hard, since no one is perfect. But when we lay in bed at night and he puts his hand on my belly and laughs when he feels the baby move, all is right in the world.
And as to where to find them? Well, I found mine in a Mac store on our college campus when I asked him for an application.
Strangely enough . . . that's how I found mine. But I do believe God had a hand in this one.
MH is awesome, pretty close to perfect, but we're old. And we got married old, and waited until we were really old to have kids (married at 30, no kids until 35).
I'm not saying this is the magical recipe for success, but I think it helps. And a lot of the marital dramaz I see on here are from younger couples.
Ditto for me as well. It took ALOT of growing up for the both of us to finally settle down and get married, but I fall in love with him more and more each day.
Mine smelled like cupcakes...kinda hard not to notice that!
Like others said he has his bad days but then again i am no peach either sometimes.
I also found a wonderful supportive ridiculously loving husband. I found him totally randomly but sorry to say - the key is not in "finding a nice guy" I believe there are plenty of them out there. The key is to becoming the kind of woman who doesn't tolerate bullSH*T. Once I transformed myself, idiot guys who treated me badly didn't make it further than 1 date becaue I wasn't interested in saving/fixing/understanding somebody's A**hat side. When I met my DH it was the easiest most natural thing ever. And 3 and a half years later it's still easy and fun and loving and respectful - married with a baby any day.
So - my advice is, don't let the bad ones through the door and your odds of ending up with a good one go through the roof. Because I guarantee that people who post about their DH being a jerk while they're pregnant probably deal w/ that jerkiness all the time anyway - they're just used to it in everyday situations, or thought that their husband would "change" with marriage/baby/whatever. Why would you ever marry someone who needed to "change"?! Start out with someone you like just the way they are and life is way better!
Same here! Found the greatest man online- eHarmony! love love love him!
You find the diamonds in the rough and polish them up a bit.
kidding...
My DH used to be a pretty big party guy, and as he got older, he just kind of settled down, and grew up, and became an amazingly supportive, beautiful person.