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3rd Trimester
perhaps flame worthy
Why do so many ladies on here care about everyone else's feelings/opinions. When choosing a name people feel they need to check with family and friends friends (its YOUR child). Parents-to-be are getting all worked up about what take home outfit to put their child in, as to not upset someone who gave you "the perfect picture outfit". Every nursery idea needs to be passed on to mom or MIL before you can start. Really poeple?
maybe i'm just a b!tch, but the only persons opinion i care about is DH.
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Re: perhaps flame worthy
lol! I did kinda wonder where this came from.
This is awful lol...I would die if I had to "pass things" by the In laws or anyone for that matter. As for the rest of your post...
I don't think the ladies on here depend on answers to choose a name, or a coming home outfit, or a color for the nursery, or to really tell them if they are in labor or not...It's called just getting peoples opinions. Why are you on the Bump if this bothers you? lol that's all this web site is, asking questions and opinions on what other Moms are doing.
Wow, welcome to 3rd tri.
This.
no drama...i just dont understand women.
i didnt necessary mean getting opinions from women on here. but everyone is so worried about hurting friends/families feelings.THIS!!!
I think everyone just likes to know that they are doing the right thing. Or just the general support of women in the same situation.
No drama? Honey you started the drama with this post. Not a good way to come to the 3rd Trimester lol
Wow, so 3rd Trimester PG women is where you chose to start venting? Bad choice!
Getting opinions is just that. GETTING OPINIONS. You're probably not going to listen to 99% of what is said, BUT you may find that other women have some awesome ideas that may add that little touch you were looking for.
But, that's my opinion.
Some people are more open than others. I share whatever with whomever (within reason), particularly with family members. I've very rarely encountered anyone who had a negative opinion on whatever I shared with them (at least that they've expressed to me), but if they did, well, ooooh well. I think most of the women who come on here to talk about those types of things that people have said to them are truly surprised and just upset that they're fielding such negativity from people that they care about and who are supposed to be supportive.
Those of you who don't share with family members... well, I think in a lot of circumstances you've learned either from your experience or from others that people can't criticize what they don't know. In other cases, you're just private people who don't care to share the details of your lives w/ everyone. And that's okay, too.
The ones who are concerned about hurting feelings? Well, sometimes that comes from the insecurities of being a FT parent, sometimes it comes from being non-confrontational and not wanting to hurt feelings. Eventually, in most cases, people get over it and do their own thing, but I don't see a problem with them coming here for advice/support in the mean time. YOU might not care about what others think, but I don't think it's necessarily fair to hold everyone else to the same standard.
but, i dont care if people like the name i chose. thats all im getting at.
chill ladies. innocent question got outta control.
Welcome to 3rd tri. You knew that it was "Perhaps flame worthy" . . . you knew where you were heading when you posted this.
The title of the post is prehaps flame worthy, obviously, you knew you were going to get these types of responses. I'm just saying!
::::Kicks OP back to 2nd Trimester:::::::
Right. I think asking opinions about nurseries, onesies, and names are harmless and these topics help pass the time for some people. But it boggles my mind when people come here asking internet strangers for opinions on serious medical issues when everyone here seems to be under the care of a doctor.
OP: Read a book called "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps" by Barbara and Allen Pease and you'll understand why women want other people's opinions and why they want validation from family members.
Also, lurk a little on a board before running your mouth- you have 58 posts total so far and this was not a good way to start out on 3rd tri. You start a post with "perhaps flame worthy" and end with "maybe I'm just a b!tch" and expect not to get some upset women? Let's think about this....