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XP: Anyone feel like they're in the wrong job?

katesmom73katesmom73
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I posted this on Working Mom's but thought I'd post here as well.  I am over 35 as well but always thought of myself as a late bloomer and am hoping someone else might have had a similar experience.  It's a little long...thanks in advance!

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I got my degree in Marketing and have been working in Marketing since I graduated 12 years ago.  I've never progressed past "Coordinator" or "Assistant Mgr" - I think part of the reason is that I'm afraid to move forward and part of it is that I have a hard time being in a leadership position.

I have a great deal with my current job - I work from home, my boss is in Oh (I'm in IL), good benefits, OK salary but I'm often bored, I procrastinate often and I feel like I "just don't get it".  I work for a large matrixed company and have always worked for smaller companies in the past so part of it is getting used to the ever changing processes but I feel like I'm new every single day.  It is so frustrating and demoralizing.  I know I'm smart, I know I have some strengths and talents but I am completely stuck in terms of moving away from Marketing into something else.

So, part of this post is a vent/pity party but part of it is wondering if anyone has been in the same place and has come out in a better place?  I know I have confidence issues b/c I feel like the biggest idiot when compared to my colleagues but at the same time, I truly feel like I'm not in the "right" place and that is why I feel that way.  Anyone else feel that way, find something else and realize that the job was their biggest issue?

I know the grass isn't greener and I'm not expecting to figure it all out in 1 month, 3 months or even a year but I would like to make positive steps out of this stuck feeling but I'm not sure how to do that.  Maybe I need a life coach Smile.  Any suggestions or help would be appreciated.

 

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  • snwfieldssnwfields

    i'm kinda in the same boat. I actually have a marketing degree as well but don't work in it at all anymore. I have been somewhat lost career wise for quite a while. I have had many jobs all over the spectrum, started a few businesses along the way...etc. I have actually had the same job for almost 3 years now which is the longest by far that I have ever been at one job. It is not even remotely challenging and it basicaly just helps pay our bills. I feel like at 37 I should have more figured out but I just don't. There is nothing out there work wise that I feel passionate about and I feel totally lost. I am currently debating going back to school but not sure what for.

    So basically I have no advice for you I just wanted to say I understand what you are feeling....sigh.

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  • peeper72peeper72

    I don't think it's ever too late to find your path. I started vet school when I was 30. Getting there wasn't easy. Before that I knew the whole time I wasn't cut out for what I was doing and it was not situational. There are still days when I wonder if I made the right decision when I chose this work but I can't think of anything else I'd rather be doing.

    It sounds like you need to figure out first what your interests are and what you would like to do.  I am an avid Franklin Covey user. I don't think I would have ever accomplished any goal much less be able to identify them without that system. I would love to have a life coach!!! I asked for one for Christmas a while back (in grad school when I was unhappy in that career) and got laughed at. I think it would have been a huge boon at that stage for me. The more I end up dealing with the immediate crises the less time I have to know what I want - a life coach will push you to find answers to the questions that are more easily answered with "I don't know". I say go for it!!


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  • choirgirlchoirgirl
    Well, maybe I'm not much help, but I have a doctorate in a behavioral science field, and have been working in my field (since finishing) for about 13 years.  However, 4 years ago, I realized that though I didn't hate what I was doing, it wasn't enough and it wasn't feeding my soul.  So I went down to half time and am now a semester and 6 weeks from finishing a second undergrad degree, in music, vocal performance.  Hopefully will find a way to do research half time (and get benefits) and teach voice and piano, as well as really hopefully get paid here and there to sing.  Would that I weren't almost 40, because part of me would love to be have a real career in music, opera particularly (ChristineNYC lives my dream) but I'll be happy if I can do a little regional stuff.  As long as I can have music be a legitimate part of my life, I can probably keep doing the research/stats stuff that fulfills the other half of my brain. 
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