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MaMaSiBs
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Please tell me to stop crying.....
MaMaSiBs
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I just got a phone call from a friend who told me she is pregnant. They weren't even trying and have a 4 month old at home already. Now don't get me wrong, I am very happy for them, but WTF!!!! She was all like hurry up girl.... tell DH to get on it and make a baby. And I just broke down. I have actually been trying to get pregnant and fertile Myrtle over there just sneezes and gets KU. Her and her DH are the ONLY ones who knew we were ttc. We told them in September and they were like we were hoping you guys would wait a little so we could all be pg together and I said I want another summer baby and time is almost running out.
To make matters worse, I was really feeling down today to being with. I was already feeling that this is not the month and next month is already out cause we will not be together during O. This day sucks!!!!!!!!!
Love multiplies it doesn't divide!!
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Re: Please tell me to stop crying.....
Wow, I can appreciate the way you feel. But your friend is going to need your support. I can't even imagine being pregnant with a four month old.
Chin up!
For sure.
Stop crying.
This might come off as rude... but I'm going to say it anyway.
These posts drive me insane. Why do women have to be so rediculous sometimes. We're all on the same team right? We're all working for the same goal right? Sweet Jesus. If I see another "my friend is prego and I'm not boohooo" post it will be too soon.
LOL, omg I really think it might be.... but in all seriousness, this girl was like bragging to me in September how easy it was for her and her DH to get KU the first time and she had the never to say "Oh it took you THAT long... we only tried once". So ya I am kinda bitter cause again no effort and KU. I AM happy, just feeling down. I do hope this month is my month too because then we can do this together which would be awesome.
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LOL I had one of those days the this week when 2 friends announced they were pg.
Ok, reality check: other folks you know will get pg. It can feel unfair for sure but they didn't get pg just to make you feel bad. As much as it hurts because you want to have a baby, you still need to be there for her/them.
Honestly, I had to come to the realization recently and instead of resenting or feeling hurt I just have to accept that I am not pg and my friend(s) are. I need to be supportive to them and keeping trying to get KTFU!
GL
I know, I know. That is all so true and I am just having a bad day to begin with so this was a shot to the gut. I know I am very Blessed with DD already and that it will hopefully happen eventually. But it still stings and tomorrows another day though, right?!?!
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Look, I am having a bit of a rough day and I know it might seem stupid or selfish to you, but I don't care! Don't read the posts if you don't like them and obviously we are NOT on the same team if you cann't show an ounce of sympathy to someone who is feeling down.
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Yeah, most of my friends were able to get pregnant within the first few months, so they can't relate to my situation. While your friend's comments may come off as insensitive, I bet she just doesn't realize how hard it is for many people since her experience was so different, ya know? My friends actually told me the other night at dinner that I just need to have sex with DH more and try harder. I knew they didn't mean any harm. Thankfully my other friend who frequents the nest knew enough to say it isn't that easy for everyone. I lightened up the conversation by informing my friends that DH's penis might fall off if I "have sex with DH more" and that put an end to that!
Good luck and cheer up. You will have bad days, but you will get past them.
Thanks m+j, I needed to hear that. I know she probably doesn't get it and I can't fault her for that. When I spoke to her I was VERY excited for them. Everyone journey is different. I just wish she knew how lucky she is, because I don't think she REALLY does. Oh well, I think a good nights sleep is what I need and maybe I won't be so crabby, LOL.
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My thoughts, and question, exactly.
BFP 11/25/2009 ~ Blighted Ovum Discovered 12/10/2009 ~ Natural M/C 12/24/2009
BFP 3/29/2010 ~ EDD 11/25/2010
Sawyer Marshall ~ November 16, 2010
I am on your team. Its called constructive criticism. Sometimes you need to snap out of it. This would be one of those times.
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Okay, fine, I'll take it as that. and I want to snap out of it. I guess I am just having a pity party and I HATE feeling like this.
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this!
I do think that it is a little insensitive of your friend to make such a comment, but what I've found is that women who get pregnant easily don't realize that it isn't that easy for other people and they tend to make insensitive comments. I'm sure it wasn't malicious, just thoughtless.
And it is fine for you to be a little upset by the whole thing, as long as you are also able to be supportive and happy for your friend! Like I said, I don't think she meant to hurt you!
In any case, feel better! And good luck next cycle...