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Prinycesa07
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Family not liking the LO's name?
Prinycesa07
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Anyone else have family who doesn't like the name they chose?
I have a couple family members who don't like our choice but it's our baby, our choice. And it's not like we have picked a very unusual name or anything.
We're naming our baby Audrey. From the first time i told a few family members they all said "ew" or "that's an old ladies name". So they have all decided to call her Aubrey now. Kinda pisses me off. I guess this is why some people don't share their names until LO is born!
Audrey- December 2009
Owen- April 2011
Olivia- Due December 24th
Owen- April 2011
Olivia- Due December 24th
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Re: Family not liking the LO's name?
What a weird name not to like, it is very pretty and I don' think of old lady at all. My family doesn't love our name choice but DH and I love it and they haven't been so rude to give him his own name. DOn't worry, they will love it once she gets here.
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We had this same issue every time we decided on a name we liked. I'd run it by our families, and get horrible reactions. We didn't even pick anything really weird or unconventional! Just normal stuff, mostly family related.
Eventually we started telling everyone that we weren't going to tell because we kept getting such bad reactions. They all felt so bad that when we finally told them our final choice, they acted happy about it.
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We're naming our LO Evelyn (Evie for short) and our families aren't big fans of it. We don't care though. As long as we love it, that's all that matters.
Some of DH's family is very outspoken like that. They didn't say anything about LOs name, but said something about the other names I had thought about when I told them. If we have another boy later, I'm probably going to name him the other name I like (and that they don't like), and I don't really care what they think.
It's annoying that your family is calling her Aubrey. You should just correct them each time they do it. They need to call her by the correct name.
Sorry you have to go through this
This is exactly why we haven't told ANYONE our names. Plus it's nice for DH and I to have a little secret
Audrey is a great name! Also my mom's name. Would have used that for our DD's middle name if MIL wouldn't likely have issue with it.
Do what you want and if people call her Aubrey then consistently correct them on it. My BIL named his son Andrew and it didn't take many times for him to politely correct people when they called his son Andy. He's 9 years old now and I've never heard anyone call him Andy since he was 9 days old.
I must be a royal b!tch, because if any family (mine or his) insisted they disliked our names and tried to call the baby something else they simply would not get to see the baby. Sorry. It's not worth confusing the little one.
My baby brother had one family member who kept using a nickname and my brother ignored him because we taught him that his name is his name. If he wants not to be called by a specific nickname, that it's OK to say so. The family member did not listen.
My kid will be taught the same. Your name is your name. It's part of who you are- no one (especially family) should belittle or demean that just because they're petty and childish. Psht. Aubrey? Really? Audrey is so much prettier. :P
Ditto. Everyone loved the name we picked at first, but it took some time for my Mother to come around and like it. She loved the meaning before she learned to like the actual name. LOL
Tell them if they don't like her name, they don't have to see her. Honestly, no one has said anything about the names we gave our other two kids, but we didnt' announce their names till they were born. A long time ago, long before we were even talking babies, names came up, and MIL said she hate the name Kylee. We still used it, and she's never made a comment about since.
One of my sisters is doing the same thing to me...we picked the name Henrik specifically because it is Swedish and that is very important to DH and his family. My sister keeps calling him Heinrich (German). Even though it is just a slightly differant pronunciation it really bothers me and the only reason my sister is doing it is because she know it bothers me. I told her if she kept doing it I wouldn't let her hold him, she didn't take me serious at first but after about the 10th time I said it she got the point and stopped doing it. I'm usually very understanding with my family but I thought what she was doing was disrepectful so I didn't really care if I came off as rude...
That is exactly why we're not telling anyone. I know that whatever the name is, our family won't like it, just because it's not John or Bob. Especially my grandmother, who is so vocal and negative about everything.
By the way, I love the name Audrey. It's so classy and sophisticated and feminine, but a name that can grow with a girl.
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Dont worry to much, I would just kindly remind them that her name is Audry and not Aubry.
When my SIL was pregnant she told us they were naming their daughter Presley. None of the family really cared for the name but once she was born it didnt matter anymore. That was her name and it has grown on all of us. We love her name now.
Glad to see that i'm not alone here!
Same thing happened to my sister last year when she named my niece "Alana". The family kept making comments about how ugly it was. Don't people realize that they have no say in this?!!!
And thank you for all the compliments on the name, it does make me feel better
Owen- April 2011
Olivia- Due December 24th
I think Audrey is super cute! Tell your fam to either call her Audrey or don't call her name at all. It's not their choice, it's your choice. People ask about my baby's middle name (Kingston) and I tell them we like it...deal with it! Honestly, I don't like the name, but DH does, so there you go.
Really, I don't think it matters that you told them now or when she's born, they'd all have the same reaction.
Some family members don't like the name Silas, and I just tell them "you'll get used to it" and move on.
And for those not telling people the baby name now: if people don't like your name choice, waiting won't make it easier for them to swallow. They will still be vocal about it.
My Grandma isn't crazy about the name that we picked for our little girl, Jeslyn. She said, "You aren't going to actually CALL her that are you?" I said, "What else would we call her?" We're doing all "J" names in our family and I'm not going to call her Jess (my name is Jessica). She also wanted a boy, so I told her maybe we'd make her happy next time. She never mentioned it again.
That is so rude that your family members are calling her by a different name!! I would come up with horrible names for the baby to call them and I'm sure they'll change it real quick. For instance, if it's your mom and she hates the name Granny (mine does), I would call her Granny all the time until she started calling the baby by the correct name. If they aren't immediate family, I would tell them that you get to choose the name you want and they can/got to name their children what they wanted when they were born, and they should respect your decision. If they continue to call her Aubrey, I would tell them that they are invited to see her when they can pronounce her name correctly. Or if you want to be really snotty you could say, "If you had done a better job naming your children, I would have asked your advice."