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MIL does it again1

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So I know that my MIL is manipulative and usually I can see what she is try to get...but this time, I know she is up to something but I can't figure it out. A few weeks ago she complains to DH that she only gets to see DS when she is babysitting him. Well, ok that is semi true but we have been uber busy the past two months and frankly she hasn't gone out of her way to see him or us any other time...so whatever. Then tonight I'm working late and DH is with DS. I call like I normally do around 7pm to say goodnight while DS is still in a good mood and before DH has started night time routine. Well anyway, there is no answer on our home phone or DHs cell. I get a little worried, but figure they are just out. Then just a few minutes ago I get  call from DH, I ask what they've been up to....MIL invited them to her house for dinner. Ok, not a big deal if she were a normal person...but she knows that I work Monday nights....I may be reading a little too much into this, but I know her too well and know that nothing just happens....the other thing is that DH was kinda snippy with me on the phone and I didn't even say anything about MIL.

 I'm dreading having to spend anytime with the inlaws this holiday season between MIL and BIL's crazy GF - it is sure to be a mess.

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  • CrazycrustaceanCrazycrustacean
    I'm sorry she's so sneaky. I wonder why your dh is snippy. 
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  • LawLove08LawLove08

    Maybe DH was snippy because his mom was annoying him? ?

    Sorry your MIL is manipulative, that sucks. ?My ILs annoy me, but it is nice that they aren't manipulative.?

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  • ammcammc member
    maybe it's the hormones but I think you are reading way too much into this.  she knows you are working and maybe just figures her son could use some help with DH and a meal.  I know it is hard to think that way but it's just not worth getting worked up over.    When my SIL had their first baby, he was the first grandchild.  MIL was way overbearing and they had to sit her down and have "a talk".  She was very hurt by this and the boundaries but life went on.  When I got pregnant, I would hear stories about MIL and how she acted with the baby and I was super worried that she was going to be the same way with our baby.  I totally built up a wall and over-analyzed every move she made so I knew I could be on top of things and know my defense.  I don't know how many times I rehearsed to myself "the talk".  When our baby was born, she was absolutely fine.  I think she was broken in and knew what not to do.  I feel terrible that I still have the anxiety about her only because of the stories I heard.  I hope that someday I can just let it all go and not get so upset over something that hasn't happened yet.  Over time, as LO gets older things will get easier.  I hope the same for you.
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