when did it feel "real" ?

ladychicago · October 2009

was there a point in your pregnancy where you did less worrying and more planning? when did you start to feel like it WAS going to happen and it wasn't such a big question mark?

every so often we start talking about paint colors in the nursery or names... but then we catch ourselves and sort of subconsiously change the subject. i know the first trimester is a worrisome time for every pregnant woman, but i'm just curious when others have felt a bit more "safe" or felt better about making actual plans and decisions knowing a baby was on the way...

beebe929 · October 2009

After the big u/s I felt much better, hitting viability at 24 weeks, feeling movement... but honestly not until I held her.

Hang in there! It is part of being a Mom. You will worry about your child ALL the time.

mrsolsenk12 · October 2009

I started to feel better at 12 weeks but was still limited in our planning for the baby. We registered at 20 weeks because we were having an early baby shower at 25 weeks. I think when we registered, it felt more real that "OMG this is really happening."

kimarino13 · October 2009

It still doesn't feel real, and it feels like I am living someone else's life as I get the nursery put together. I do feel safer about making plans/decisions, but it still doesn't feel "real" if that makes any sense.

I am not sure I will believe this is actually happening until they are here. =/

WhiteysWifey · October 2009

It still doesn't feel "real or safe"...we just knew we had to get things done and did them. We really didn't start doing things though until 20 weeks.

kammy · October 2009

I started to feel confident that there would really be a baby about 28 weeks. It took DH much longer until he felt comfortable talking about/planning for the baby--like 34 or 35 weeks.

Mrs.Greenie · October 2009

I started the nursery at about 20 weeks. But I worried every single day until I was admitted to the hospital for induction but that didn't stop the shopping!

CardsfanSM · October 2009

It didn't feel real for me until about 25 weeks, 5 weeks AFTER big u/s. At 25 weeks, I had some serious allergic reactions while on vacation and ended up at a walk-in clinic. It didn't care about me at all, just her. It was the first time it really hit me that yes this was indeed real, and that I was going to have a child.

dana316 · October 2009

Worrying is normal...we all do it, but you still have to let yourself enjoy your pregnancy.

Talking about it/planning for it/shopping for baby isn't going to 'jinx' your pregnancy.

Don't miss out on this extra special time due to fear...you are pregnant!! Enjoy it!!

mrspresley · October 2009

it's hard... first you wait for the 2nd trimester...then the m/s goes away and you wonder if you are still PG... i felt better once i felt her kicking (16 wks) but much better after the big u/s when they told us she was healthy w/no obvious birth defects...and then like pp said when they hit the point of viability it makes you feel much better.

so i would say it started feeling "real" when i felt kicks but i didn't feel "safe" or reassured until we knew she was viable.

ESTH2000 · October 2009

Honestly, not until I held her in my arms but I still can't stop worrying..CRAZY!!

Hang in there..its normal to feel this way!

Congrats!!!!

emmylizzy · October 2009

I was incredibly nervous until after we passed the viable stage. My mom is an ultrasonographer and I had her scan me about once a week just to make sure everything was going okay! But i definitely had some worry up until she was in my arms.

LVBlvd · October 2009

beebe929:

Hang in there! It is part of being a Mom. You will worry about your child ALL the time.

This. Each milestone brings new worries. So the baby has a heartbeat, but is it high enough? Okay, so the baby is moving - but is it enough? Why is she moving less today? So now she is here - is she warm enough? too warm? You get the idea : )

But it is so wonderful. Amazing.