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Officially Term today - but not a good appointment
I am now on weekly visits and had my appointment today. They have been monitoring me for pre-e and I've submitted two 24 hour urines so far - the most recent one last week. I have been on modified bed rest (still work, but off my feet at home). I expected test results this past Monday, but figured if it was of any concern they would call me....otherwise they'd review results at this week's appointment. Doc did my first internal - I'm still "tight as a drum" as he put it. However, he was not happy with my test results - apparently this was the first time anyone had reviewed them (there are 4 docs and 1 MW in the practice and I get rotated). My protein and sugar were both high. So - now I'm on full bed rest. And - because he doesn't want to waste any time doing a 3 hour glucose test (I passed the 1 hour in August) since I'm so close to delivery, he's treating me as if I have GD. I saw a dietician today and will see the nurse Monday to get the instructions on how to test my blood sugar.
I'm so upset....when he told me I couldn't work I started crying. I know - silly, but this was not how I wanted it to be. I can still work from home - fortunately I have wonderful bosses. But, I'm a very independent person and hate having to be dependent on my DH anymore than I have been. He's been doing so much since I was put on modified BR. I just feel as though I've failed in some way...I know - again, silly, but I'm so frustrated! My heart knows that all that matters is that Delaney is born healthy and her mama is healthy and this all won't mean a hill of beans after a couple weeks....I'm just still trying to wrap my mind around it all....
Carla
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Re: Officially Term today - but not a good appointment
Oh Carla, I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. You haven't failed, you are growing a healthy baby and keeping yourself healthy for her.
You are doing exactly what needs to be done for the both of you. Sounds like you have a wonderful DH too and I'm sure he will be glad to continue doing whatever he needs to do!
Take care of yourself.
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I'm sorry for your frustration. I hope the time passes as quickly as it can for you and you are holding your baby girl who will make everything worth it soon.
Hang in there!
Oh Carla!! We're all SO close now! But you're not allowed to go before me, okay?!! So until I go, you need to stay put!!
Don't feel guilty at all. Your "work" job is just a job. They'll manage without you there in person, and you're still able to work at home, so all is good. Some people aren't so fortunate there.
Right now you have a much more imporant "job".... birthin' a healthy baby. I've felt bad about making hubby do more for me, but he's taking it well. We all have to change our mindset that we're not SUPERWOMAN who can do it all without help.
I'd actually be royally pissed off at the docs for letting you go all week without checking those test results. That's inexcusable! Elevated levels can mean problems for both you and baby and they're at fault if no one said anything to you and something went wrong. (Knocking on something big and wooden here!)
I know exactly how you feel - I've been on disability since 26 weeks, and while I was thrilled with not going to work, (I'm not such a big fan of my job), when they finally put me on bed rest I went a little nutty. I used your exact words, that I felt like I was failing at this. While I still find it incredibly difficult and I feel like such a burden on everyone, I am finally starting to accept the help and just feel so grateful for all of the amazing people in my life who WANT to help.
Your new job is to be the mama princess and cook that baby for a few more weeks. I'm trying (and some days are easier than others) to really enjoy the down time and the me time, because it won't be like this for very long. Take good care of yourself!!
Carla, I delivered at 38 weeks. So hopefully you bedrest won't be long. Rest up for now and get ready for some wonderfully sleepless night in the future.
((Hugs))
You haven't failed at anything. Pregnancy is HARD. Motherhood is too. But you'll get through this and Delaney will make it ALL worth it.
Hang in there, Carla.
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Ohhh I am sorry!
Still, it's nice that he's being cautious, it just must be hard to slow way down before you are really prepared to do so.
Carla- I am so sorry you're having to go through all of this but so happy that Delaney is doing well. I got put on (modified) bedrest, too. It's not fun. The good news is that Miss Delaney will be here before you know it!
I am sorry that you are having a hard time of it.
On a completely random note your baby's name is my maiden name. I liked it so much I kept it.
Hey Carla, hope today is going a little better for you and you have had some time to digest the news. Bed rest is not all that bad (taking into consideration all of the other things the doc could have said). I am glad that you and Delaney are healthy and hanging in there. I hope the next couple of weeks go by quickly for you~ ((hugs))
Take it easy Carla, if bed rest is what the doc suggested, then please do it. I worked until the last day, trust me it's not all that, I was very, very tired and my feet and ankles were super swollen...You should never ever feel like you failed. You are doing a wonderful job taking great care of Delaney and she's very lucky to have such a dedicated and caring mom like you! I can't wait to meet her! (bet you can't either (wink)) I'm sending you plenty of happy and healthy vibes !
THANK YOU all so much for the encouragement! I've started to wrap my head around this all and I am feeling much better about it. I think part of my frustration too was that I've worked at my job for 16 years and have never NOT worked since I was 22! AND, I really do love my job and the people I work with.....so I was beginning the transition process of delegating out my duties but figured I had more time. I'm a bit of a control freak, so having the decision made for me did not make me happy. And, even though we are just 3 weeks away from our EDD, I think it didn't really settle in how truly close we are to her arrival. It literally can be any day now. I'm such a planner....this wasn't in the plans....but, it is what it is - better learn to start being flexible now, cuz I know my world is about to turn upside down!
I big pink puffy heart you all!
Carla
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I'm sorry you are going through this and I don't know what to tell you about this but I can tell you to get over that "independent person" mindset. You need help now and you will need help after the baby is born and your DH had a hand in this whole thing so he is supposed to help. I'm sure he is a great guy and will be a great father but if you hold onto the "I can do it all myself and don't like asking for help from anyone" way of thinking you are going to be very miserable. I know it's hard to do but that baby will have control over everything you do, think or feel and he will control every decision you make for a long time.
Besides, the stress and crying over the situation can't be good for you or the baby. As for the GD, I had that and the diet and food choices are actually things all pregnant women should follow, diabetes or no.