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2nd Trimester
Bad feeling coming back :(
This is my second pregnancy and what stood out from the first one is all the unsolicited comments from people around me (co-workers, friends, strangers). I seriously don't get what it is about a pregnant woman that makes people feel like it's okay to comment on my body!!!! Would you normally tell someone they look huge?
My best friend has compared me to another friend of hers that is pregnant for the first time - but let me know that "she's not even showing yet." "were you this big at 24 weeks last time?"
A few people have said "oh, you're just gaining in the belly," but then they ask when I'm due and I tell them February 10th. They freak and and tell me how huge I'm going to be if I have that much longer.
Today during my private prenatal pilates session, I went through ways in my head I could let her know I wouldn't be coming back because all she talked about is "had you gained this much weight at this point in your first pregnancy?" "how does your doctor feel about your weight gain at this point?" Look lady, I'm here trying to get a workout and do something about it can you shut up and just do your job and stop making me feel like a lard ass!!!!
It's freaking RUDE people!!!
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Re: Bad feeling coming back :(
This is my first pregnancy and I've hardly gained any weight, but I do have a definitely little "pooch" going on. To my family/friends/coworkers they know it's a baby bump, but just in public, people probably think I'm in desperate need of some serious ab workouts! So I'm just at this awkward in-between, not feeling cute-pregnant stage.
Every time I walk into a certain office at work to pick up paperwork, everyone in the rooms eyes just go right to my belly... and they don't even say anything! It just makes me feel so self conscious and awkward!
I completely feel your pain. I'm on baby #3...and I'm 5 foot nothing with the shortest torso ever. Of course I'm going to look bigger. It seems like people lose any sort of filter or tact when they're around a pregnant woman.
I'm a doctor at a large city hospital, and average at least a dozen rude comments a day. At first it was just annoying, but now it's starting to give me complex! And don't get me started on all the unsolicited touching.
Ok first, I am a prenatal fitness instructor, and I would NEVER ever comment on someone's weight. It is none of my business. And when the class starts talking about whether they are too big/too small/etc, I get them to change the subject. Everyone's body grows differently during pregnancy, and fitness instructors are not educated to make those comments! Find another pilates instructor asap.
Second, I am on baby #2 as well, and I am also huge
I am only 15 weeks but look more like 25. So don't stress, you aren't the only one!
I hear ya! I'm the only woman in the entire company so they all feel the need to comment on my growing belly....AND boobs. At first I was excited that they thought I was showing but now it's like..yeah...I weight myself everyday..the numbers on the scale tell me I'm getting big, I don't need to be told all day long as well!
I dont think people realize how close Feb is either... I will get people asking me when I'm due and I tell them Feb and they think it is so far away... but I only have a little more than 3 months to go!
I'm sorry. Some people just suck!
And seriously, you are pretty darn close to third tri. In the grand scheme of things, you don't have THAT much longer to go.
Regardless, I don't care if you were 3 weeks or 30 weeks. People just need to learn to hush...