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MayDayGirl
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I'm totally different than I thought I would be.
MayDayGirl
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-Dh and I made fun of our friends for CDing. Now we do it and I'm in love with it!
-I use to complain about recycling and now I compost/recycle/use cloth products and love it.
-I really didn't think I would like to breastfeed and CERTAINLY not passed a year. Now I love it and I'm thinking 18 months (or longer?? don't tell DH!)
-I always thought I would want an epi. In the end I held out as long as possible before I was convinced to get one (12 minutes before he was born)
-I would have preferred a bunch of girls over a bunch of boys. Now I am kind of hoping for another boy!
-I said I would NEVER do IVF. Guess how DS was born?
-I didn't want to complain about being pregnant. In the end I think I'll pass on more pregnancies because I loved it *that* much (insert sarcasm)
-I use to think it was so annoying when people's kids were allergic to everything (like they can help it!). My kid is the kid no one can feed because of all his allergies! lol. oops!
Tell me YOUR ways you're different. 
Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF
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Re: I'm totally different than I thought I would be.
When I was going through IF it would totally grate me the wrong way when pregnant women would complain about being pregnant. I would literally cry to DH, and say, "Why can't they just be happy that they are pregnant?" My tune totally changed when I had hyperemesis for several weeks, felt like my pelvis was a wishbone being pulled in half, etc. I loved the fact that I got pregnant, and enjoyed the kicks and when he'd get the hiccups, but I definitely wasn't one of those women that loved being pregnant.
I am a much more protective mother than I thought I would be.
Before DS I did not understand why everyone wouldn't get their children vaccinated, now I understand why some people question them.
I went into CD wholey expecting myself to fail we are going a year strong now and as a result I have become more earth friendly in other ways.
I thought I would be happy going back to work I am not happy.
These are going to make me sound like an a-hole, but whatever.
Years ago, the idea of being able to feel a baby moving around inside of me freaked me the F out. Now, I love it and I think I will miss it when they are outside babies.
Years ago, the idea of breastfeeding creeped me the F out. Now, I am hoping I am able to breastfeed both babies.
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
I guess I don't know that I had any specific expectations around the kind of paernt I would be so it' shard for me to say how I'm different.
However, the IF path has changed me. A lot. And I think in ways that are helping me to be a better parent.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I thought I'd want to work but I'd give anything to be a sahm
I thought I'd be more relaxed with him but I'm so over protective
We always said we'd never use bc again but are now discussing what to do since we're not ready for #2 ...and it sucks to have to use bc
I bf for 7 months but I'm still weirded out when I see women bf in public. - I think I'm more in shock that they can do it since I never got the hang of it.
I'm a lot more laid back about certain things... we've never done a schedule and I love it that way. I however was very strict on food and didn't allow ds to have sugar before his 1st bday.
I thought when I was a SAHM I would be able to take care of all the housework... lol the distractions are still there however I cook way more and do way more fun things with ds than I expected.
Married 8.13.2005, M/C 12/8/06- 5 weeks, M/C 2/27/07- 7 weeks, M/C w/ D&C 8/10/09-6.5 weeks *Charles Lawrence born 5/2/08 @ 3:14am, 7lb 8oz, 20.5 inches. Clomid, Crinone and baby aspirin. *Alexandra Claire born 9/14/10 @ 9:52am 6lb 14oz, 20.5 inches. Femara, Crinone and baby aspirin.
I never thought I'd discuss boobs or poop or any number of other body parts and functions quite so openly.
After the first BFing support group when DD was 1 week old, I've barely even thought about whipping out the boob in front of people. (OK, not my dad or his significant other, but pretty much anyone else!)
- I made fun of my sisters for cosleeping/bedsharing - now I do it and love it. Same with attachment parenting - I used to roll my eyes - now I incorporate it into every aspect of raising Jack.
- I swore I'd never formula feed - and switched to all formula after EP'ing (something else I never knew I'd do) for 6 months.
- I thought I would CD and don't (but I do use and love 7th Gen diapers.)
- I wanted a girl and LOVE LOVE LOVE my little boy and if I had another, would be thrilled with another boy.
- I always thought I'd have a crunchy, natural birth - I had a planned C-section instead (not my fault though! Little man was big, breech, and literally lassoed in place by his cord - he wasn't coming out any other way.)
- I planned on being a FT working mom - now I am a PT working mom.
- I can't say being a mom is anything like I thought it would be - but I love it!
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
- I used to get skeeved out by the thought of a baby sucking on my nipple and thought I would NEVER BF.
- THEN, I got pg and decided that I really wanted to EBF.
- THEN, I hated BFing and how it made me feel like something here only to serve with no boundaries of my own. AND, because I had really set my heart on EBFing, I cried about this literally every single day for over a month.
- I used to make fun of people who changed their whole house around to baby proof and thought they were just too lazy to teach their kids not to touch. Now I have the EXACT things I particularly picked on: the fireplace bumper and the baby jail.
- I've never been a germphobe, but I totally am now. I get really freaked by people getting too close to my babies and go nuts when someone touches them. I make everyone sanitize and I sanitize my hands like a loon when I go out.
- I love reading and always imagined reading constantly to my kids, but I pretty much only read Goodnight Moon to them most days. Maybe it's because they are too young to be that interested and just squirm to go play or try to eat the book. I hope this changes.
I'm more structured than i thought i would be. i figured i'd be laid back but DD kind of put herself on a routine and i will definitely stick with this for DD#2.
I said i'd never go back on birth control after TTTC...but after a surprise BFP, i will.
I thought i would be cooler-less "changed." Going out like before baby and getting sitters at the drop of a hat, but i don't. I don't want to...i like being with DD. I work FT so my evenings and weekends are for her.
I didn't think I would pursue IVF much past the first try. ?DS was try # 3.
I thought I'd get sick, and hate pregnancy. ?I didn't - and I LOVED being pregnant.
I thought, because I worked out all through my pregnancy, that I'd be able to push this baby out in 4-6 hours, and would regain my pre-pregnancy shape pretty fast. ?Instead, Iabored for 26 hrs with little-to-no progress, so I got a C-section and was never even allowed to push. ?And the 12 lbs leftover are seemingly permanent.
I NEVER expected to breastfeed. ?I told myself (and others) that I was going to give it a try, but was probably not going to do it long. ??It freaked me out. ?BUT...when they brought DS to me, and I heard him from way down the hall and recognized his cry, I instinctively uncovered myself, and found my arms outstretching automatically as I heard myself say "C'Mere, my pumpkin - are you hungry??". ?I now love it, despite a rabid case of thrush, that has lasted 2 months.
I didn't know DH and I had it in us to get through 8 wks of severe colic - but we did.
I didn't expect to be the basketcase of hormones that I was following the birth, despite being forewarned. ?Post-partum hormonal haze is no joke - and totally chemical.?
I didn't know I would care so little about sleeping less, and care so much about whether DS is comfortable and happy at 2am.
I didn't ever know how vulnerable it makes you to have a baby. ?My heart has been cracked wide open, and with a simple smile, DS breaks it- in the sweetest possible way, several times throughout the day. ?
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- I always thought pregnancy would be so wonderful and a breeze, it was hell and I had every single symptom.
-I wanted to go into labor and avoid getting induced at all cost, I was induced due to hypertension.
-I wanted to get an epi at the first sign of too much pain, I did, and it didnt work. I pushed for over 3 hours.
-I always imagined my baby coming out of me and DH cutting the cord and her being placed on me, she had meconium so had to be rushed to the table and DH didn't get to cut the cord.
-I wanted to breastfeed for atleast 6 months, but ideally a year. At 7 weeks post partum I got AF and my supply dwindled away to nothing.....
-I always said i'd never put my daughter in my bed with me. She slept in my bed her first week of life, and has been in her crib since.
- I wanted my two children back to back....now im back on BCP until further notice! im not ready!!