Would this tick you off?

scherza · October 2009

One of my girlfriends has a couple of kids in a church preschool program. She works full-time, and her husband is the one who does drop-off and pick-up because his schedule's more flexible than hers is.

So they go in for parent conferences, and the teachers say to her that they don't know how much she cares about her children because she's working and doesn't do drop-off and pick-up. What the heck?!

Queenie11078 · October 2009

That would've flipped the *** switch for sure. TIA!

Janimal · October 2009

I would have told off the teachers for being judgmental assclowns and that I would not defend my love for my kids to them, but that they should be ashamed of themselves for being judgmental and out of touch. I would see the principle of the school and tell him how incredibly inappropriate that was.

Yeah, because that's the measure of a mother's love, pick-up and drop-off.

MrsL1022 · October 2009

I am furious and so hurt for your friend. That is an awful thing to say to a mother. Ok really, as I type, the more I think about this the more outraged I am becoming. That was so far over the line I am absolutely dumbfounded.

mingaling2 · October 2009

Holy hell, I would not have been happy and expressed that to the school director as well.

Alison422 · October 2009

Um, that would have beyond ticked me off. Did she say it to her just like that? She doesn't care because she works and her husband actually acts like parent and does something, like picks his kids up?!? I don't get it.

Daisy22 · October 2009

Oh my gosh, my dh would have had to hold me back. Actually dh probably would have said something to her too. Your poor friend!

jodylynn · October 2009

WHAT THE HELL? This is identical to my situation and my husband just is closer by the daycare. That is awful to make ANY parent feel like that. I would be so mad.

JoelsGirl07 · October 2009

OMG! i would have cussed her out and then asked to speak to her supervisor. That is unacceptable!

MrsKLB · October 2009

Janimal:
I would have told off the teachers for being judgmental assclowns and that I would not defend my love for my kids to them, but that they should be ashamed of themselves for being judgmental and out of touch. I would see the principle of the school and tell him how incredibly inappropriate that was.

Yeah, because that's the measure of a mother's love, pick-up and drop-off.

Ditto this. I would have a hard time keeping my child in this school if these were the type of teachers he was being exposed to.

myrall · October 2009

Um. Yeah. Piss poor (and that's putting it mildly).

My daycare has met my husband exactly twice. If they had even hinted at something as ridiculous as that: 1. We'd be in a new daycare STAT and 2. Heads would be rolling.

slwprincess · October 2009

I believe I would have to question their qualifications as a teacher after something like that. OMG, effing ridiculous.

Kerrin · October 2009

I'm super pissed and this didn't even happen to me. If i were that mom I would have seriously lost my composure.

Mrs. atlgatorgirl · October 2009

I would be livid! That is totally inappropriate and judgmental. I would definitely have a hard time keeping my child in that program.

MLvK · October 2009

Please, please, please post what your friends reply was. And ditto 100% what Jan said.

KT&John · October 2009

This would MORE than tick me off. My child would not be going to that school anymore. Regardless of how good it is in every other aspect I would not want her around people who are THAT judgemental.

UGAbride · October 2009

Oh no they didn't?!!! I'd have soooo been talking to the director, and if there weren't other teachers available immediately to transfer my child to we'd be outta there. WOW!

donna&ed · October 2009

totally inappropriate. Hard enough that we get Mommy guilt(at least I do from time to time) and if somebody judged me like these teachers, I would have flipped.

Mrs.Guz · October 2009

What the...?? Who are they to judge?? That's the second I would have pulled my child out of that childcare.

yellowtulips80 · October 2009

wow. that is totally uncalled for and callous. I would have to resist the urge to throat punch the teacher.

scherza · October 2009

She ripped them a new one, and she's pulling her kids out.

I was just aghast that somebody could even THINK that way in 2009.

Queenie11078 · October 2009

scherza:
She ripped them a new one, and she's pulling her kids out.
I was just aghast that somebody could even THINK that way in 2009.

Good for her. The person making that comment should lose their job. How incredibly inappropriate!!

Mrs Manners · October 2009

I would be furious. Our nanny takes ds and picks him up from preschool. I've only been once (the first day to take pics). DS and DH are the only reasons I go to work every day.

I was getting a *little* of this vibe from our speech therapist because our nanny will have to take him. I flat out told them if they couldn't work with/through her, they wouldn't be working with us at all.

jacensgirl · October 2009

Coming in a little late, but for what it's worth, I have to say when I read your post I was not surprised that a church run childcare program would take such a backward attitude. I know not all church based schools are backward, but many people I know who have had their children in such programs have had these kinds of experiences because of Biblically based gender sterotypes. My cousin, who has three children and works full-time was called out by name during a church service as a "bad mother" because her 'first priority' was not staying home with her children. It's archaic and shocking, but there are people who still believe these crazy things - the teacher must be one of them. I hope your friend didn't take it personally.

scherza · October 2009

Both she and I work for a religious school, so I think it was doubly shocking in that respect.

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