DH wants a III

raynaw · October 2009

My dh's name is James Edward and I love his name! But I am not sure that I am on board for a III for several reasons:

1. I want this child to have his own identity and

2. My dh has a son from a previous relationship and that son is not named after him. I don't want my step son to feel slighted in any way.

DH has agreed to entertain names with James as the middle name, but I am having a hard time. The only names I really like are, Miles and Porter. I am open for suggestions

Am I over reacting and should I just concede to James Edward III?

sunnyday016 · October 2009

Miles James, Edward Miles, Porter James, James Porter

You've got some good options.

BoSoxbride · October 2009

I think that's very sensitive of you to consider your stepson's feelings, and I wholeheartedly agree. Have you pointed this out to your H? I'd give him the middle name deal, but scrap the III thing.

~CoCo~ · October 2009

BoSoxbride:
I think that's very sensitive of you to consider your stepson's feelings, and I wholeheartedly agree. Have you pointed this out to your H? I'd give him the middle name deal, but scrap the III thing.

Exactly.

ubermoose · October 2009

BoSoxbride:
I think that's very sensitive of you to consider your stepson's feelings, and I wholeheartedly agree. Have you pointed this out to your H? I'd give him the middle name deal, but scrap the III thing.

This exactly. And, you are in luck, James goes really well with many, many, many names.

BrideBuddies · October 2009

Honestly, stick to your guns. Isn't it enough that you're giving the kid his last name?

I've always though of naming a child III, IV, etc as being kind of an egotistical thing and kind of arrogant and pompous. But that's just me.

I have a close friend who is a IV. He's always hated it for that reason and will NOT be continuing the tradition.

wheelenl · October 2009

ubermoose:
BoSoxbride:
I think that's very sensitive of you to consider your stepson's feelings, and I wholeheartedly agree. Have you pointed this out to your H? I'd give him the middle name deal, but scrap the III thing.

This exactly. And, you are in luck, James goes really well with many, many, many names.

Yes. This. All of this.

Plus, Porter James sounds nice and Miles Edward sounds nice.

metzy144 · October 2009

I would go with the middle name thing.

newportbride715 · October 2009

BoSoxbride:
I think that's very sensitive of you to consider your stepson's feelings, and I wholeheartedly agree. Have you pointed this out to your H? I'd give him the middle name deal, but scrap the III thing.

Completely agree. I would NOT name this child James Edward III. There are a bazillion names that sound nice w/ James as a mn.

MrsCFB · October 2009

i agree with everyone else, how sweet of you to consider your step son's feelings.

james is a great name and is well suited as a middle name. it seems like you like unique or less common names, so here are some suggestions:

sullivan, finn, cassius (cash), sebastian, evan, preston, kellen, simeon...

brooketarne · October 2009

That's so weird...my brother's name is James Edward

GeoffreytheGiraffe · October 2009

omg, I LOVE the name Porter.

Should this baby turn boy (unlikely)

Porter is at the top of my list now!!! Thanks!!

and ditto pp about your stepson. You are a very considerate stepmom.

hopefulmom · October 2009

My first DS is the IV (5th) and he definitely has his own identity. lol Not sure if I would name a sone III if he already has a son (although I have heard that the Italian tradition is to name the first son after the father's grandfather and the 2nd son after the father).

EastCoastBride · October 2009

BrideBuddies:

I've always though of naming a child III, IV, etc as being kind of an egotistical thing and kind of arrogant and pompous. But that's just me.

I've always kind of thought the same thing myself. "I want my child named after MEEEEEE!!!!!". Uh, what makes you so special that you need to have your kid have the same name?

Anyhow- I would stick to my guns on this too. And your point about your SS is really VERY valid. Accepting a new sibling w/ a different wife can be very hard on kids and this new child getting the "honor" of getting his dads name COULD come across like your DH loves this new baby more than his son. (I'm speaking from the kids perception!)

Ciconrad · October 2009

I think both your reasons for being concerned about using III are valid. My son is the IV but DH and FIL go by the middle name, Richard (well FIL is Rick), so we went back to Joseph. I don't think I could have done it if DS and DH would have been called by the same name.

I like Miles - not a big fan of Porter, its my cat's name. Other names that I like with James - Quentin, Caleb or Isaac.

Ciconrad · October 2009

EastCoastBride:
BrideBuddies:

I've always though of naming a child III, IV, etc as being kind of an egotistical thing and kind of arrogant and pompous. But that's just me.

I've always kind of thought the same thing myself. "I want my child named after MEEEEEE!!!!!". Uh, what makes you so special that you need to have your kid have the same name?
Anyhow- I would stick to my guns on this too. And your point about your SS is really VERY valid. Accepting a new sibling w/ a different wife can be very hard on kids and this new child getting the "honor" of getting his dads name COULD come across like your DH loves this new baby more than his son. (I'm speaking from the kids perception!)

Hmmm...some people just like family tradition. DH's grandfather was near death when we got pregnant with my son. When we found out we were having a boy, it brought him to tears that we announced we were making him the IV and going back to his name of Joseph for what he would actually be called. He told DH's grandmother that he just wanted to make it to see our son (which he did). If that's your definition of egotistical and arrogant, fine but you sound judgey judgey and a little arrogant yourself making such a comment.

BrideBuddies · October 2009

Well then ECB and I must be arrogant and judgey, then. Way to take it personally, Ciconrad.

There are other ways to honor family traditions than with a III, IV or V.

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