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Temper Tantrums (almost 12 mo.) - how do you deal with them

stacymartzstacymartz
in Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months

My DS the last few days has been having these screaming (at the TOP of his lungs) temper tantrums when he does not want to be put down, or when I take away something he cannot play with. I drives me nuts.

I thought this may be a little early for this, but apparently not. I do not want this to continue. I do not want to let him think this is ok, but discipline at this young age is hard. Currently, I will just calmly put him in his crib and shut his door until he is done. 

Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!

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Re: Temper Tantrums (almost 12 mo.) - how do you deal with them

  • kgb1411kgb1411 member

    this will continue

    and it is okay

    just make sure he is somewhere safe, and let him have his tantrum.

    save the discipline for things where he will cause bodily damage (like biting, hitting, jumping off the furniture). 

     

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  • Parks2BeParks2Be

    Closet and duct tape works well.

     

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  • GoodysgirlGoodysgirl member

    I love your picture! Cracks me up!

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  • Nicole731Nicole731 member

    I agree with PP. It will continue, but it is normal. We've been dealing with it for a while now. All I do is make sure he is in a safe place (not where he can thrash around and hit his head on something). I ignore him other than that. Sometimes it resolves right away. Sometimes he screams for 45 minutes.

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  • Judah'sMommyJudah'sMommy
    I leave him to have his tantrum and walk away.  Usually when he realizes that I'm not paying attention he will pull it together.  Until the next time. lol 
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  • Lucky_DragonflyLucky_Dragonfly member

    I give him something else if I take away somethign that he has that I don;t want him to have. if he still gets mad then he generally throws himself backwards. I usually will cup the back on his head and let him lat down and I walk away. He has his tantrum for a few minutes and then he gets up and wants a hug and all is better.

    What you are doing now does sound bad. he needs some time to himself to gather his thoughts and calm down.

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  • funchickenfunchicken member
    He's just frustrated.  Distraction worked really well for us at that age.  If I had to take something away from DD that I didn't want her to have, I'd always trade it with something that I knew she liked.  Singing her favorite songs was also a good way of distracting her when she got upset.  Try not to let it get to you.
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  • Alex26Alex26 member
    DS has also resorted to this within the last couple weeks.  I jsut ignore him and walk away, and he usually stops right away.
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  • pinksweetpea2pinksweetpea2 member

    It is frustration- he knows what he wants but can't yet form the words to tell you.  He is not really being "bad".    It is going to get worse before it gets better- the calmer you are the better. 

     


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  • stacymartzstacymartz
    Ok, thanks ladies. Hopefully this will subside, but I won't hold my breath : )
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  • BecauseICanBecauseICan
    It's not likely to subside anytime soon.  :)  I do the same as the pp's though.  I put her down, or move her someplace safe, and I usually say, "I know you're mad, but it's not safe for you to have xyz", etc.  And then I walk away.  It usually takes her about 15 seconds before she realizes I've walked away, and she stops.  You just can't let it frustrate YOU, b/c then you'll end up in a power struggle, which you'll likely lose, LOL.
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  • care22care22
    I wouldn't put him in his crib. I'd just move him to a carpeted area and then walk away. I usually say, if having a tantrum, have it here. I'll come back when you're done.  You don't want him to associated the crib as a form of punishment...or that if he needs to go in his crib he needs to have a tantrum. Also, I've had a tantrum at the saem time myDD does. They looka t you like you have 4 heads, but they stop b/c you look stupid.
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  • stacymartzstacymartz
    Care22 - good point about the crib. Maybe I will just either walk out of whatever room I am in or put him on the carpet in his room. There's not anything that he could hurt himself on in there.
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