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Thank you etiq.

ELPBELPB
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So my shower is 11/7, and only a very few people have RSVP'ed. My cousin's wife has not RSVP'ed as coming/not coming yet. However, I got a package in the mail yesterday- return address said "Processing Dept"- and I opened it. Inside was something from our BRU registry, and the shipping label inside said something like, congrats/you're going to love being a mom.  Since she just had her 2nd baby on 9/26, I would imagine that she's not coming (if she were, I think she'd probably have the gift sent to herself to bring to the shower).

Do I send a thank you now? Or wait 2 weeks, after the shower is over. Also, do I bring this gift to the shower for people to see?

We didn't have anything like this happen for our wedding, so I'm a little clueless as to what is appropriate.

 TIA!

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  • Mrs.Keith2BMrs.Keith2B member
    I'd write the TY you now just to get it out of the way. And no, you don't need to bring the gift with you to show other people.
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  • ChefHeather82ChefHeather82
    I'd go ahead and write the thank you now, just to get it done and to let her know that the gift arrived. And no, you don't need to bring that gift to the shower!
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  • amrynamryn
    I had that happen several times - gifts received in advance of our first shower. I sent thank you notes for each and did not bring any of the gifts for the shower. At least one of the gifts was from someone who attended the shower, but since it was a larger gift (a pack n' play), she thought it'd be more convenient to have it shipped directly to us.
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  • jkfranklinjkfranklin member
    I agree with the pps.  Don't bring the gift to the shower.  If she happens to show up at the shower, just mention that you recieved her gift of 'x' and tell her thank you like you would as if you had opened it there.
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  • DaisyGrl13DaisyGrl13

    There was a cute post earlier this week, and the person took pictures of the gifts that she got before the shower.  With the giftgivers name on them.  I thought that was cute. 

    I'd send the Thank You's now.  That's what I've been doing, plus it lets them know you got it.

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  • NewToNJBrideNewToNJBride member
    I waited and opened the gifts that were mailed to me at my shower. And I sent the t-you notes afterwards but my shower was at our house so it wasn't a difficult task to have them there for me to open.
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