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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
daycare not listening, how to handle ?!
DD goes to an in home daycare and one of the little boys older school aged brothers ( who doesnt go to this daycare ) has the flu so I, being a nervous first time mother of a 5 month old who has yet to get a flu shot asked my daycare lady if she could just do her best to keep the little boy from touching DD or being too in her face..she tells me " I can't do that, they are all always in her face ( wow, thats great !! ) , they love her, we are always in the same room , its just impossible"...Okay, I dont think it should be that hard to keep a 2 year old from touching a 5 month old..So I basically just said, please just do your best because she can't get the flu shot yet and its very serious in infants if they do get it..she comes back with "its not the swine flu and she could be exposed to the flu anywhere so if you're that worried you should just keep her home"...good freakin lord !! I didnt ask the kid to wear a surgical mask, all I asked was to just keep him from being to overly in her face !!
I really do like our daycare provider but often when I have suggestions , she is very dismissive and states why she can't do something and its starting to irritate me. I am always polite and not confrontational at all ( which to be honest, is not my nature, i have no problem with confronting people, but in this situation as the person who cares for my DD I want to keep the relationship on good ground ) and she just acts like, her way is better or whatever..I know she has been doing this a long time, but I am the mom, I pay her and I feel she should respect my wishes with most things.
What do you girls think ? was this that unreasonable of a request ? and should I approach the way I am feeling to her about how she handles my requests ? I am hoping in January to be able to quit my job and stay at home for a year or two, but that is not set in stone, so until it is, I have to deal with this and I do feel she takes great care of DD and DD is doing really well there, so switching isnt something I really think needs to be done at this point.
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Re: daycare not listening, how to handle ?!
allowing a child with the flu to touch your 5 month old is not taking great care of your daughter.
i would def. look into switching... particularly to someone who has the policy that if your child is sick (esp. flu-sick), you keep them home b/c there are other kids there
Proud mama to a boys- 6/17/09 - a girl 2/23/11- and a boy 8/20/12
I think she should listen to you! That is frustrating. If nothing else, she should have told you she will do her best..even if that means the 2YO will still touch your DD a little, at least telling you she will try would be nice. UGH.
I dealt with the same thing a few weeks ago when my daycare lady's kid was sick. She was like "I'll try to keep the hugs and kisses between them to a minimum". Really? My kid is not mobile and your kid is, tell your kid to leave my kid alone, MMMmmmmkay?
I hope your baby doesn't get the flu!
The kid that goes to her daycare doesn't have the flu, his brother does.
It sounds like you have pretty much made up your mind that you aren't going to switch day cares. So I think your only option is to talk to her abou it or suck it up and deal. I don't know how much good talking to her will do, it seems fairly obvious that she is not going to change her ways or compromise with you.
I couldn't take DS to a daycare where the provider dismisses every request I have. I don't think your request is unreasonable, it is not a huge deal to keep the kids seperated. She should be able to entertain the toddlers and your LO so they are not always in her face.
BFP#3 12/09/12 - EDD 8/11/2013 - D&C @ 12w :: BFP #4 2/17/14 - EDD 10/28/2014 - M/C @ 6w
I would not be ok with DS being at a daycare where there are kids around who have the flu. That is not acceptable to me. Even though it isn't swine flu...you do NOT want your 5 month old baby to get ANY type of the flu. Their immune systems are too weak and there's not much they can do for sick babies except sleep and feed them all the time. And her not thinking it's that big of a deal would bother me very much. Since you do pay her, she should respect your wishes. She sounds like she needs an additude adjustment!
If I were you, I'd look somewhere else...where kids with the flu are not allowed to be.
I am confused right now with all of this...I dont want to switch because I really like her in alot of ways. She is just a very honest person, she is not going to tell me she will do something and then not do it..She also follows the state's regulations very strictly, which I like. She is very matter of fact with things though and while she is great with the kids, she is just not very sympathetic to my wants/needs for DD while in her care. It seems like she just likes to do things her way...Sometimes she will dismiss somthing but then when DH picks DD up, she will offer up suggestions or bend a little and say, she tried, this or that, etc..I dont know why she isnt like that when I first bring something up. I trust her with DD, I know she is taking excellent care of her and everytime DH arrives to pick her up , she is happy as a clam so I am hesitant to just pull her out instead of trying to work with her to be more accomodating to my wants for DD. Ugh, it is very stressful though !
the litte boy that goes there does not have the flu..I am concerned because his brother has the flu and it could be passed to him and while not showing symptoms, he could pass it to my DD...If he had the flu, he would not be able to attend, if they have a fever they cant come.