single moms.. wwyd?
Ive decided not to put BD on the BC. I don't want him to have any rights to my son, because i fear for mine and my LO's safety around him. He has bi-polar disorder, PTSD and is very violent. He will punch a hole in the wall over spilled milk, literally.
If he fights to be on the BC and get visitation, i'll do all i can to stop him. He is psychotic and scary and i don't want my precious innocent LO in his hands. Not to mention, he lives with his girlfriend (they used to be engaged, he left her and got me pregnant then left me to go back to her once he'd found out i conceived), and she has made threats to me before. Even threats of punching my stomach while pregnant. He used my body to have a child to give her, and the thought of this just sickens me.
I don't care about the CS. I don't need it. I have support from family and i will continue to work after LO is 6 weeks, and hopefully i can work the next few weeks if doc takes me off bedrest, which is highly unlikely.
Am i wrong? Would you do the same? I will do all in my power for him to never lay eyes on my LO. The thought of him terrifys me. I double lock all my doors and windows, and i'm scared to go out alone at night because i always feel like he will pop up.
Re: single moms.. wwyd?
well first off, congrats on your baby boy!
secondly, no, you're not wrong... in fact, i would do everything to get as far away from him as possible.. you have to do what you need to do to keep baby boy as safe as possible...
good luck and stay strong!
Thanks everyone!
But another question... even if i don't put him on BC or get his CS, can't he fight for rights to see him?
I just found this board and am also a single mom. Now to your question.
You are within your rights to not list you childs father, but if he is a detirmined as you have said then he will find you and he will get rights unless you can prove he is a danger to your child.
Now what he did to you is really terrible ( I read your previous post) but unless you can show with tangible proof and not just what you think he will be apart of your son's life and you will have to figure out a way to work with him or it will be a hard 18 years.
Go see a lawyer. Not putting the fathers name on the BC doesn't negate his rights it just doesn't give LO the correct last name. If he's crazy document it and start building your case, take a warrant and start lining up your ducks.
CS and visitation in my state don't have anything to do with each other. I advise you to get your child's money to help make his/her life not as hard.
Document, Document, Document. Use your cell phone to record. One get some counseling so you can stop being scared (if that's even possible, sometimes it just isn't). Has he hit you? If so document it and that's a wrap on visitation but you need to legally take care of this matter.
Congrats.
i hope this phrase was just an oversight. just because it's the father's last name does not make it the "correct" last name.
1. Restraining order.
2. Don't put him on the BC. He will have no rights until he proves that he is the father. (Paternity test.)
3. IF he gets a paternity test and gets visitations, make sure they are supervised. Just based on what you wrote you should be able to get them.
Ditto. Can we please keep this type of crap off of this board?
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