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driveshorses
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Intro...
driveshorses
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I've lurked for awhile, posted a few posts and figured I'd better do the intro thing, especially with all the trolls and alter's I've seen here as of late.
I live in Ohio with my husband, stepson and 3 dogs.I'm a store manager for a specialty retail store. I used to train horses to pull carts/carriages, as well as racing and some show stuff. Now I just sell the equipment to make that happen! Unfortunately I work a lot and I miss spending time with my family, but the mortgage needs paid and the kid is going through a growth spurt!
We have SS fulltime, his BM gets him every other Sat night and for a couple hours on Weds. I've read some of the things going on with some BM's/BF's and the like...I do realize how lucky we have it since the only thing BM is guilty of is being a little ignorant about some common sense things, and planning things at the last minute. But thankfully, no drama! Well...not too much anyways. 
I guess that's all for now. I look forward to reading more and posting more in the future!
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Re: Intro...
Well, that's awesome- glad everything is so good for your family. Just curious, how did your DH get full custody of his son? is that by BM's choice or was that a battle that was fought?
Def. sounds like a good thing but it is uncommon so I'm just wondring what the circumstances were.
BM and my DH had split up (never married) and BM had SS. Bm would leave SS at home when she went to work..but had the mindset of "He's already sleeping when I get home, why go home at all?" So out she went to party. BM's stepdad went to DH, told him what was happening, and told him they (BM's mom/stepdad) would help him get a lawyer to get custody because of how irresponsible she was being. She was also in the plans of moving about 900 miles away and had never said anything to DH.
BM never put up a fight to get SS. Which absolutely breaks my heart. He's such a good kid and loves everyone. I just don't understand it. She never wants/asks for more visitation and her parents get him more than she does. SS hasn't said anything about it, so we just don't make a big deal about it. Its her choice. And her loss.
I'm quite alright with being the horse lady! LOL No offense taken.
And BM is only semi-ignorant because we rarely have anything to do with her. Once a week and every other Saturday/Sunday, which takes about 45 seconds.
I've already found a lot of wisdom in the posts. It's helped me a lot too, especially to take a step back and see the whole picture when something does go awry.
It's so good the BM's family wanted SS taken care of. Other families might have tried to hide her irresponsibility.
I see you're TTC. Best wishes to you and your family!
I absolutely agree! I am glad that her parents are responsible and cared enough.
And thank you! We just started this a couple weeks ago. Its been an interesting/exciting journey thus far.
Whoa! Small world! I know you from the delphi boards! Same user name for me!
Just wanted to let you know that I absolutely love your siggy pic!
Pam
LOL! Fantastic!I saw your username as the 'last post'...I KNEW it had to be a horse person and I definitely remembered the ID!
Yes, I've seen you on DH (DreamHorse for the non Delphi forum-goers) and maybe PHJ?? I don't really post too much anywhere right now. Seems winter has come early to all forums and the crazies are making their rounds in force.
And thank you! I love that pic too, everyone else will get tired of seeing it before I do. I do love that big black clumsy beast of a freight train.
Wow, I do not understand that mind set for anyone. You are right- her loss and probably a good thing for SS. I am also glad that her parents did what was best for their grand child.
Yep - DH, PHJ, and for a post or two in the Remuda during that last fiasco. You are correct - winter is coming and the crazies are out! LOL
Gorgeous horse - will have to put a pic of me and my girl here for you to see. I tend to delete my siggy outside of DkH.
I have an 11 yo SD that I adore who is has been bit by the horse bug (wonder how that could have happened?). Sane BM for me too - thank goodness. I have a 14 month old DD also - trying to get her "bit" too. LOL I am a driver too - pic below is from the National Drive in 2007.
This is a really good board for advice and it also keeps me thankful for having a sane BM. You will enjoy the company here!
Oh yes..the fiasco in the Remuda. That was interesting wasn't it? *very tongue in cheek* Grown women? Riiiiight.
I LOVE that little horse! That looks like a fun one to drive!
My SS loves riding the horses. I put him on the horse in my sig one time...that gelding is 17hh and MASSIVE. SS loved it! I then put him on our lesson horse, a 16h TB, and I forgot how much I hated running in a sand arena. We have dressage horses too so its deeper sand than say, an arena for WP horses. He kept telling me he wanted to trot more...so I'd run more to make the horse trot.
I'm hoping sometime I can get him a nice little hunter horse. I'm not much for WP and SS isn't afraid of what people think of him so I could easily get him in a pair of breeches. It makes me giddy with delight! I wish he was younger so he could have a pony and show short stirrup!
Hopefully your DD will get bit by the horse bug! It makes it so much more fun when some new blood gets into it. I have young kids come into the store and their excitement is SO refreshing, much more so than the whiny college students who come in complaining about how tough their instructor is. Training isn't any better.
Go figure...I'm not on a horse board, but still find someone to talk about it with! LOL
I was on theknot when I got married, but didn't join in on the boards there, our line of thinking with how we were doing our wedding didn't coincide with anything there. I didn't even have a seating chart..the horror! lol This I like much more! Marrying into being a parent is much more different than just the two of you starting off. My mom has said to just wait to have kids and just enjoy ourselves...well, I'm 29 in a couple months, I don't want to wait longer AND we're already a family of 3! And its our choice...back off.
Coffee+computer=a lot of words typed out. Sorry for the book!