What is your DH's opinion on more kids at this point?

LizRN626 · October 2009

My DD Addisyn is just over 1 month old. I also have a DD Ava who is almost three-she is at that stage where she can be quite a handful. DH's and my plan was always to have these two now ( I am 25 and he is 27), then wait until both are in school, so 5yrs and try again and hopefully have 2 more. Well, recently my older DD has been more jealous and difficult to deal with along with the baby and I think it is alot for my DH to handle. He doesnt handle stress very well, and pretty much likes for things to be calm and cool ALL the time. I on the other hand kind of just roll with the punches. I still want more kids and recently he has been adamantly saying No MORE kids...especially if its a day where my older one is being especially naughty. I just dont know what to think....I feel like things are incomplete, like I would like at least one more. I dont know if he is just really stressed right now and it is coming out with these comments or what? What do you think? Has any of your DH's said the same thing? PS--I have talked with him about it once and he said "whatever you want"..but has said after that "no more"....confused??

thequeeenbee · October 2009

DS is 2 months, and is our only child. We plan to start trying again when he is 9 months, and the wait 2 to 4 years to start trying again.

thailajo · October 2009

don't worry, the 3rd one is usually an accident anyway Wink

No but seriously he is probably just stressed out and once your DD grows out of this stage he will probably go back to the original plan...just take one day at a time

mrs. remy · October 2009

he wants another right away. I would like to enjoy not being pregnant for a little while at least. But honestly I can't wait to have another.

jhelly77 · October 2009

We want 1 more and we are 31. When I asked him yesterday when he wanted to start trying he said he wanted to let "nature take its course". ie no birth control. I think I'd like to wait a few months and see how it goes when I go back to work.

jennylove1084 · October 2009

Well, I would like to have another one when I'm 28 or 29 (I just turned 25) and hopefully be in a position to SAH then. If that happens earlier, we will have the 2nd one sooner.

The bigger struggle is how many. Part of me would like a girl. DH says 2 kids and then we're done...but he does understand if the situation were reversed with 2 girls he would want a 3rd...so we'll see!

We don't really want 2 in diapers though.

MrsPreK · October 2009

At this point, we plan on waiting until DD is a year to start trying again.

2-Step · October 2009

We agree that we want at least one more. He is ready to start for #2 whenever I am, but I would like to wait to try until DS is at least 18 months. He pretty much told me that it is up to me how many we want to have (within reason) since I have to go through the pregnancy and recovery. If we had another boy I would defintintaly try for #3 for a girl, if we have a girl as #2 I'm not sure.

zsmommy · October 2009

We both want more, but we really want to wait until I get a job.

LVila · October 2009

I asked DH what he wanted to name the next baby. He said, "Never." Bahahahah. I know he wants at least one more, but I had a *terrible* delivery and I think he's still terrified from it. I'm hoping to have them 2 1/2-3 years apart.

BetsyDavis · October 2009

We would like to have another child but at this point we just want to get through Ellie. We decided if we do we would wait at least a few years hopefully 5. I don't want two kids in diapers. I'm only 21 so we got time.

jday1229 · October 2009

We're 32 & 36, married for 10 years, and DS is our first. I'm cool with only 1, but DH is so smitten he's ready to try for #2 already LOL. If we do decide to have another, it would be within the next 3 years. I don't want to be pushing it much closer to 40.

mrsblt · October 2009

DH & I would like two at most. He says its up to me if I want to have another or not since I am the one who has to be pregnant and go thru L&D. If we do have a second child I don't want to start trying until DS is 2 years old.

I am 28 and DH is 37.

annibes · October 2009

DH always said 2 and then he's done. I always said at least 3. Now that I've been through pregnancy and delivery and the first two months(eek, it's not easy!), I'm thinking two is great. But now that O is becoming more interactive and developing into a little person, DH is having a ball being a dad and thinks he'd like 3. Lol. Never in agreement...

purple_posies · October 2009

He has an almost 6 year old from a previous relationship and DS is our only together. We both want at least 2 more, but we're waiting a few years before trying again.

He'll probably change his mind back when they get older and things get easier. It's hard to say right now because it's not like you planned TTC now, you've got 5 years ...

eta: I'm 23, he's 25, married since March.

annibes · October 2009

Oh, and I'm 26 and he is 36.

pink.dutch.tulips · October 2009

at some point he MIGHT want another b/c dd has been such a good experience that he's hinted that we might want to start ttc again when dd is 2 .. it's all talk right now and things can most definitely change.

we were 34 and 39 when dd was born .. we're getting to the point where age is a deciding factor as to whether or not we want more.

Shlei · October 2009

Like me he would like to try for one more when DD is one year

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