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confession/questions (lube ment)

i've never needed nor used lube. with this being the case, all the "ZOMG USE LUUUUUBE" advice (for PP maritals) has me wondering....how does one use lube?

yes- i am 25 years old, have had multiple sexual partners (forgive me Lord) and had half the dr's in New England insert lubed up fingers & dildo cams into my vag and yet i don't know how to "use" lube during sex.

do you get started & then say, "hold up, pass the lube."- do you do something with it before hand? does it go in me or on him? do you put some in your hand before starting just so you can be prepared? so many questions i have.

someone enlighten me- otherwise our PP maritals (with ZOMG LUUUUBE) will be based purely on the direction of the KY Jelly bottle and perhaps YouTube.

Re: confession/questions (lube ment)

  • Hahaha. TMI continued:

    DH will pour it on me and "rub it in" so to speak. We put it on him if he's going in, so to speak, so both. Or one or the other.  Try to incorporate it into your foreplay, etc. so it feels less awkwadr for you. I mean we don't use it before we get started, but when we use it while things are hot'n'heavy it's not as awkward as you made it sound! lol

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  • I kinda asked this the other day.  I look forward to any answers you get as I have the exact same questions.

    Someone please be frank ... 

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  • DH is in charge of the lube department.  I was like you and never needed it until now, so I just let him handle that. 

    My DH just puts it on himself because I don't like feeling "squishy" down there.  It helps with the dryness without creating a total freaking slip in slide.

    Oh, and don't use too much....we did that and almost had an "accident" involving the wrong holeEmbarrassed  It's amazingly easy when things are a little too lubed up.  Yes, I know I probably TMI.

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  • Can't believe I'm answering this question Embarrassed. We've used lube in the past for fun and I would usually rub it on him before he would go in. We also tried that KY warming lube one time and he rubbed it in me but it felt super slimy and I didn't like that feeling. Better on him.

    Definitely need to get some for when we try this weekend!

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    Hahaha. TMI continued:

    DH will pour it on me and "rub it in" so to speak. We put it on him if he's going in, so to speak, so both. Or one or the other.  Try to incorporate it into your foreplay, etc. so it feels less awkwadr for you. I mean we don't use it before we get started, but when we use it while things are hot'n'heavy it's not as awkward as you made it sound! lol

    Haha this post makes me laugh, but I have to say I am so jealous that you have never needed lube - we could never go without!

    Basically same as above poster, but I would also suggest having a towel or something close to wipe your hands off Wink

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  • I am in charge of the lube in our home, LOL.

    I just grab it and put some in my hands, rub together, place where needed and VIOLA!! LOL. DH doesn't mind. Sometimes I do say "hang on....." and grab it from the nightstand where I keep it....

    Again, he don't mind, as long as he's getting some. lol. 

  • Nate takes care of that...when we're ready, he just puts it on.  We're cheesey -- one of us always says, "you ready?" or something equally nerdy & awkward.
  • I'm so glad you asked.  I had no idea either.  I have some lube for helping myself but we've never used it for sex.  I keep on having sex dreams and was cleared yesterday by my OB, so I think we're going for it tonight.
  • He'll pour it in his hand and rub it all over his penis and I'll put a little on the tip of my finger and rub it just on my labia because sometimes they cause a little resistance and VIOLA! We have smooth sex.

    I dont use KY, it burns for me...dont know why. I much prefer Astro glide.

    Keep a towel around just in case, you'll need to wipe if off your hands before you do the act or else you'll get it everywhere. Also, I recommend using a pony tail holder so you dont have to touch her hair at any point. Nothing worse then lube in your hair.

    Enjoy!

  • This whole post made me laugh, but it's all so true and part of life after a baby. Crazy all the things that change after having a baby that you didn't expect!
  • DH has always been in charge of the lube. My one recommendation is to use a water based lube, like H20 that you can get at Adam & Eve or Priscillas or some other sex shop. It doesn't get sticky and washes off much easier afterwards.
  • many thanks ladies- i'm totally bookmarking this post- diiirty!
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