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Would you be pissed?
B says she got time out yesterday for giving her best friend a kiss. They have talked to me and B many times about her being to "touchy". DH thinks its ok because they probably asked her more than once not to do it.
She said to me "I just love everyone mommy"
WDYT? Do I make a big stink or let it go and keep talking to B about not hugging/kissing at school?
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Re: Would you be pissed?
Do they want the kids to "keep their hands to themselves"? I could see where it might be hard to differentiate for young kids so making a hard line rule on touching in any capacity is easier for the daycare teachers... on the other hand, its sad to have to say that when B says things like she loves everyone.
I guess what I'm saying is I see both sides if the rule they have is keeping hands to themselves in general...
This. That's a very silly reason to put a child in time-out.
You take my ovaries, I take your yarns.
LOL- you are in t.r.o.u.b.l.e!
Seriously, we talk about who it's OK to kiss and who it's not. (I also tell them if they don't want to kiss someone that's ok too) We talk about how high 5s and hand shakes are good ways to show their friends that they care
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Oh, and I would be slightly pissed. I am a lovey person- very hug-y (just ask Jodi or Kap)!!
~Lisa
Mum to Owen and Lucas
Nora Judith 7/2/06 Miles Chauncey 4/20/09 born with Trisomy 21 - Down syndrome
I don't necessarily disagree with the no kissing thing just because of all the germs and flu going around (here, anyway), but I don't even know if that's their reasoning for telling her not to do it, and I really don't think time out is the best "punishment."
So, I guess I wouldn't be pissed, but I do disagree.
Yes, they do prefer them to keep their hands to themselves. We've had this discussion MANY times because we are very touchy feely, affectionate people. Always hugging, kissing, tickling...and B is the same way.
I've told them before that if its an issue, all they have to do is tell her to stop and tell her they will be talking to me about it. I do not agree with punishing her for it.
They are teaching my DD its not ok to be loving and affectionate and THAT will get you in more trouble than when you hit someone. Thats how I feel.
I guess it depends. DS has a friend who is very huggy/kissy, but a lot of times does it even when DS tells her no, tries to walk away, etc. She chases him down and gives him a big tight hug and kiss. She is so sweet, just loves to cuddle and give hugs, but her mom does have to reprimand her when she is doing it even when other kids don't want her to.
If it was totally a joint hug/kiss then I don;t see the big deal.
Poor, B! She's such a sweetie.
I see both sides of it. She meant no harm in her actions and I think it's a silly reason to put a child in time out. However, maybe they're trying to teach "personal space," which isn't a bad thing. Also, they could have also been trying to limit the hugging and kissing b/c of the flu craze that's going on right now. Preschoolers are more likely to spread it than others b/c they are so "in your face" with each other.
Either way - she shouldn't have been put in time out for it. They should have just talked with her about it.
It's wonderful that your daughter is so loving towards others but she needs to learn when and who it's appropriate and not appropriate to kiss. School is not the place for her to be kissing other kids. Germs can be transferred this way(not that she's kissing on the lips). But kids need to learn about not being in others personal space and the teachers have to be consistent with all the students. I think this is a good time to discuss with your daughter about how wonderful it is that she cares for others but she needs to show it in other ways besides kissing.
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Ethan {1.11.10} & Malia {12.28.06}
This!
This exactly! And love the new pic of B!
that's kinda what I was thinking... if the other child didn't like it/wanted her to stop and she didn't, I can see how she'd get in trouble for it. (but not T.O. for a first offense) and the only time I think T.O. would be appropriate is if the teachers had to repeatedly tell her (like 3+ times in the morning) to keep her hands/lips/hugs to herself. Otherwise, they should just nicely remind her and move on... Good grief, it's not like they're lip locking for 5min! A freggin' peck on the cheek (or gasp-the lips) isn't a big deal. (IMO)
I think I would be pissed. PAC's very affectionate and loving, too. He never leaves daycare without kissing everyone goodbye. Poor kid would be in timeout all day! I don't see the reasoning behind their actions.
You have an awful lot of issues with this daycare huh?