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So Dh is now sleeping on the couch...(long again)

kimthgrtkimthgrt
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So, update from my DH and CIO post...

After about an hour of ignoring each other and low and behold the baby crying and me watching as he went over and held her every time she cried (f***ing hypocrit), he came in the bedroom and got his pillows. I asked if hes going to pout all night and sleep on the couch. He said he doesnt want to be anywhere near me right because I insinuated he was a bad parent. I told him everything I read here "blah blah, Ill pay you if you find any doctor that agrees with you on this subject, shes too young, blah blah"..(throw in a few expletives)..which kinda led to all of the other pent up reasons Im so mad at him. Like me doing EVERYTHING around the house despite nursing every 2 hours and how it was nice of him to take off 2 weeks, but watching football the ENTIRE 2 WEEKS didnt exactly qualify as helping out.

 He said he doesnt have the luxury of sleeping during the day when LO naps b/c as a fireman, he cant mess up his schedule. I said "are you really going to compare your job to raising a newborn?!" ( I dont know about any of you, but sleeping when she sleeps at this point is a joke..laundry, dishes, bills, tending to pets wont do themselves!!)

After badgering him until he talked to me more (he was watching football) and answering everything with "no, yes...sometimes", I finally got my point across. He agreed to take care of the kitchen. yesss, one step at a time!!!

So I think he may still be sleeping on the couch, Im not sure. I apologized for what I said, but told him thats kind of how I feel when he rolls his eyes and sighs when I ask him to help me at 3am. So we will see what the rest of the night brings. I can however, hold a grudge for a VERY long time. lol..I wouldnt, but I could.

Thanks for listening, Im much more calm now, not crying anymore, yay!!!! AND my child is asleep finally. 

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Re: So Dh is now sleeping on the couch...(long again)

  • Mrs.TeddyMrs.Teddy member
    Aww I'm sorry. It will get better. And you probably will have it out again (if your anythign like us & it sounds like you are except football=video games here). Your LO is still so new & you are both adjusting. I think it just takes guys a little longer. And sadly I think we momma's always end up doing a little more. I find if I ask DH to do stuff he will, he just doesn't (usually) get up & do it. I also found early on that if I didn't make me time & force him to be alone with L it just wouldn't happen. I did errands one afternoon & left him for a few hrs 7 when I got back he said "wow I don't know how you do that all day". Then I joined sewing classes once a week and he does the whole bedtime thing then and its been really good for him.
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  • *KC*luvs*RJ**KC*luvs*RJ*
    It's very hard the first few weeks your LO is home.  DH and I got in more than a few fights, but it will eventually get better.  Hang in there!  :-)
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  • juliane2004juliane2004 member

    imagekimthgr8:

    I dont know about any of you, but sleeping when she sleeps at this point is a joke..laundry, dishes, bills, tending to pets wont do themselves!!

    Yes. This.

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